One of the "Most Misunderstood" Subjects in the World!
"In all of us there is a hunger, narrow and deep, to know our heritage, to know who we are and where we have come from. Without this enriching knowledge, there is a hollow yearning. No matter what our attainments in life, there is a vacuum, an emptiness and a most disquieting loneliness!" ~ Alex Haley, Author
"The law must be consonant with life. It cannot and should not ignore broad historical currents of history. Mankind is possessed of no greater urge than to try to understand the age-old questions: 'Who am I?' 'Why am I?' Even now the sands and ashes of the continents are being sifted to find where we made our first steps as man. Religions of mankind often include ancestor worship in one way or another. For many the future is blind without sight of the past. Those emotions and anxieties that generate our thirst to know the past are not superficial and whimsical. They are real and they are 'GOOD CAUSE' under the law of man and God." ~ Honorable Wade Weatherford, South Carolina Circuit Judge
"Adoption Loss is the only trauma in the world where the victims are expected by the whole of society to be grateful." ~ Reverend Keith C. Griffith, MBE
"Adoption Loss = Death by Adoption" ~ Anna Freud, Famed Therapist and Daughter of Sigmund Freud
( For more quotes about adoption, one of the "most misunderstood" subjects in the world, please see: http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org Also on the website is a proliferation of esoteric information about adoptees and the moms who lost them, the search for and reconnection of the two, and support of all kinds.... Acceptable terms for moms who have lost children to adoption are: mom, 1st mom, and natural mom. Referring to a mom who has lost her offspring to adoption as a birthmother is disrespectful - equivalent to calling an African-American the n-word. No mom JUST/ONLY gives birth to a child! Young moms are not incubators, baby machines, for infertile couples. Adoption titans conjured up the derogatory, politically incorrect, term to imply distance between family members, the mother and child, in particular; but also let us not forget the insult to extended family members (What is their gene pool? Chopped liver?), including, of course, the dad. Without him, there is nothing! This distancing of the child from his, or her, family/ancestry makes it easier for infertile couples to extract children from vulnerable moms/families. It makes it easier for couples to adopt the offspring of others. Otherwise ~ HOW COULD YOU!!!? )
In the United States (1) Alaska and (2) Kansas have never sealed original birth certificates from adopted adults; (3) Alabama (4) Delaware (5) Maine (just recently) (6) New Hampshire (7) Oregon and (8) Tennessee are the only states that have passed legislation that gives adopted adults unconditional access to their (personal and private ~ nobody's business) original birth certificates.
For those of you who don't know, adoptees have 2 birth certificates: the first birth certificate (that is hidden from adoptees) and the amended birth certificate (the fiction). Often, if not always, the information (birth dates, nationalities...) on the amended birth certificates have been doctored up, have been found to be incorrect; hence, the information was a deliberate lie perpetuated by adoption agencies and adoption lawyers. For example, one adoptive parent upon meeting the 1st mom decades after the adoption, exclaimed, "You look so young. We were told by the adoption agency that you were a professional ballerina." To which the 1st mom replied, "I was 16 years old when I gave birth and lost my child." So she was hardly a professional ballerina at that age. She would have had to have been a professional ballerina at 15 years of age then. These lies are precisely another reason why adoptees deserve (their first/original birth certificates) the right to know the truth about themselves, the truth that the rest of the non-adopted world takes for granted.
Here's a joke for you! Here's a law for you that's fair! A law that makes perfect sense, too! In Ohio, an adoptee whose adoption was finalized before January 1, 1964, according to our illustrious elected legislators, can obtain his, or her, original birth certificate with his, or her, 1st family's name; lo and behold, though, any adoptee whose adoption was finalized after January 1, 1964, cannot obtain his, or her, original birth certificate with his, or her, 1st family name. Does anyone know in whose moronic Ohioan limbo the original birth certificate is entombed if one's adoption was finalized on January 1, 1964?
Healthy adoptees need to know who they are and from whence they came! Moms need to know their lost children! Dads and relatives need to know! WHY IS THIS SO HARD TO UNDERSTAND!?
"The law must be consonant with life. It cannot and should not ignore broad historical currents of history. Mankind is possessed of no greater urge than to try to understand the age-old questions: 'Who am I?' 'Why am I?' Even now the sands and ashes of the continents are being sifted to find where we made our first steps as man. Religions of mankind often include ancestor worship in one way or another. For many the future is blind without sight of the past. Those emotions and anxieties that generate our thirst to know the past are not superficial and whimsical. They are real and they are 'GOOD CAUSE' under the law of man and God." ~ Honorable Wade Weatherford, South Carolina Circuit Judge
"Adoption Loss is the only trauma in the world where the victims are expected by the whole of society to be grateful." ~ Reverend Keith C. Griffith, MBE
"Adoption Loss = Death by Adoption" ~ Anna Freud, Famed Therapist and Daughter of Sigmund Freud
( For more quotes about adoption, one of the "most misunderstood" subjects in the world, please see: http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org Also on the website is a proliferation of esoteric information about adoptees and the moms who lost them, the search for and reconnection of the two, and support of all kinds.... Acceptable terms for moms who have lost children to adoption are: mom, 1st mom, and natural mom. Referring to a mom who has lost her offspring to adoption as a birthmother is disrespectful - equivalent to calling an African-American the n-word. No mom JUST/ONLY gives birth to a child! Young moms are not incubators, baby machines, for infertile couples. Adoption titans conjured up the derogatory, politically incorrect, term to imply distance between family members, the mother and child, in particular; but also let us not forget the insult to extended family members (What is their gene pool? Chopped liver?), including, of course, the dad. Without him, there is nothing! This distancing of the child from his, or her, family/ancestry makes it easier for infertile couples to extract children from vulnerable moms/families. It makes it easier for couples to adopt the offspring of others. Otherwise ~ HOW COULD YOU!!!? )
In the United States (1) Alaska and (2) Kansas have never sealed original birth certificates from adopted adults; (3) Alabama (4) Delaware (5) Maine (just recently) (6) New Hampshire (7) Oregon and (8) Tennessee are the only states that have passed legislation that gives adopted adults unconditional access to their (personal and private ~ nobody's business) original birth certificates.
For those of you who don't know, adoptees have 2 birth certificates: the first birth certificate (that is hidden from adoptees) and the amended birth certificate (the fiction). Often, if not always, the information (birth dates, nationalities...) on the amended birth certificates have been doctored up, have been found to be incorrect; hence, the information was a deliberate lie perpetuated by adoption agencies and adoption lawyers. For example, one adoptive parent upon meeting the 1st mom decades after the adoption, exclaimed, "You look so young. We were told by the adoption agency that you were a professional ballerina." To which the 1st mom replied, "I was 16 years old when I gave birth and lost my child." So she was hardly a professional ballerina at that age. She would have had to have been a professional ballerina at 15 years of age then. These lies are precisely another reason why adoptees deserve (their first/original birth certificates) the right to know the truth about themselves, the truth that the rest of the non-adopted world takes for granted.
Here's a joke for you! Here's a law for you that's fair! A law that makes perfect sense, too! In Ohio, an adoptee whose adoption was finalized before January 1, 1964, according to our illustrious elected legislators, can obtain his, or her, original birth certificate with his, or her, 1st family's name; lo and behold, though, any adoptee whose adoption was finalized after January 1, 1964, cannot obtain his, or her, original birth certificate with his, or her, 1st family name. Does anyone know in whose moronic Ohioan limbo the original birth certificate is entombed if one's adoption was finalized on January 1, 1964?
Healthy adoptees need to know who they are and from whence they came! Moms need to know their lost children! Dads and relatives need to know! WHY IS THIS SO HARD TO UNDERSTAND!?
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Posted by Caleigh Brooks at 8/20/2009 12:12 PM 
Categories: Is Adoption Humane
Tags: alabama new hampshire kansas alaska adoptee birth certificate wade weatherford maine adoption reform circuit court judge tennessee delaware ohio alex haley law
Categories: Is Adoption Humane
Tags: alabama new hampshire kansas alaska adoptee birth certificate wade weatherford maine adoption reform circuit court judge tennessee delaware ohio alex haley law
Well, I knew getting information for people who were adopted was hard but it seems impossible after having read this.
By the way - I like the title of the site! I will have to venture back here more often.
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Rachel, there are "search and support" groups all over the world that help adopted people search for their lost relatives. People in these groups know how to do it, and are glad to do it, but it can be difficult. We just feel that adopted adults should not have to beg for their private information. Adoptees should not have to turn such cartwheels to get their personal information! It should not have to be so difficult for a certain segment of our society. Adoptees shouldn't be made to feel like they are second-class citizens! It's unfair and DISCRIMINATORY! This denial of private information to adoptees keeps them forever children, amputees. Who are our legislators saving this private information for!? It does not belong to them! Personal, private, information/birth certificates should be given to adoptees freely like this information is given freely to non-adopted people!
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