Hey! Watch Your #$%* Language, Dr. Phil!
What ever happened to all those secret "jails for unwed mothers!?" Business was slow? Forced to close? Aaaawww! What're ya' doin' for money these days? Just curious....
There are quite a few particulars worth noting about Dr. Phil's December 11, 2009, show but many of them allude us after the fact. We regret not having taken notes. We didn't because we erroneously reckoned, "We've come a long way, baby!" with respect to the public's knowledge of adoption. Dr. Phil proved us VERY wrong!
Phil McGraw is still impassionedly on the side of infertile couples separating natural families and we are on the side of natural families - all extended family members - moms, dads, uncles, aunts, nieces, nephews, cousins, grandparents.... We're on the side of preserving the natural solidarity of family tribes. We're on the side of ancestral preservation, the stability and preservation of progeny... how many different ways can we say it so you'll understand and stop it!? Perhaps we're missing something here? Keeping families together is perfectly logical to us! What is not perfectly logical or moral or ethical to us is the DOGGED attempt to break these natural, numinous, UNbreakable unions or ties or bonds bestowed on each of us by Nature, by our Creator! Can't be done! Can't break the bond - for it is written! The historical blueprint is written in the deoxyribonucleic acid [DNA] of The Universe!!!
B R A I N W A S H # 1:
The disgusting propaganda that stood out most throughout the show is the manner in which Phil McGraw and his adoption attorney-buddies gave it their best shot urging vulnerable single moms to BE SELFLESS - keep the kids a' comin' - for infertile couples to adopt!
One way they did this is by "brainwash through flattery," such as, selfless, and other adjectives which allude us. The adjective, selfless, was glaring! The word, selfless, means unselfish, "having little or no concern or value for oneself," not an attribute at all cherished or respected or revered or propagandized by our society in any other venue but single parenthood. Odd!? Good way to make money, though!
Phil McGraw and his cronies [the 2 adoption attorneys on the show] sounded like misogynists. According to them, single moms must be UNselfish and give away their offspring, as casually as children would give away their toys. They concurred adamantly that single moms must be selfless and give away their children to others and go on with their lives, which we naturally assume means give away their kids and go to college instead or, perhaps, get a piddling job.
Hmmmmm ~
Let us see if we are understanding these generous tips from the self-proclaimed elite? Single moms should be selfish about furthering their education but UNselfish [selfless] about keeping something as valuable and irreplaceable as THEIR CHILDREN? WHO would even compare the two!? What kind of an idiot would equate the life of your child - YOUR life - your ancestry, and your progeny, to a few classes - 4 years of college!!!? People who make money off of these separations, that's who! Phil McGraw slinkily makes money off of adoption - he needs variety in his shows to stay [in business] on the air, and adoption sells; whereas, Phil McGraw's adoption-attorney buddies outrightly and brazenly make money from family separation! Adoption is a billion dollar industry!
Phil McGraw has his defense all prepared, though; he'll say his gig is homes for foster kids. But we know that infertile couples are picky - they want healthy white infants!
All pregnant women and new moms are completely and absolutely vulnerable because hormones are raging vehemently, and to take advantage of females in this state, to attempt to take the child of a mother at her most vulnerable time is... quite frankly, there are no adjectives to describe how despicable such an act is! This leads us to believe that a female still in 2010 will not be safe without the marital protection of a husband because the vultures are out there. We thought we were out of the Paleolithic Age but we must remember troglodytes still lurk! In the past, vulnerable young, and older, single pregnant females were merely shamed, disgraced, ostracized, [brainwashed] out of their children; whereas today young vulnerable moms are still shamed [brainwashed] into giving away their children, but they're also complimented, praised [brainwashed] into giving their offspring away. Shame is not working as well as it did in the completely compliant past. Although, in some religious families, and circles, for instance, shame still works quite nicely, in point of fact.
Why are the sex acts and reproductive organs of young females, young moms, the business of so many OTHER people!? So many other MEN!? Seems incestuous!? Like sexual abuse!?
Phil McGraw and his cronies are spreading THE LIE that a mom giving away her flesh-n-blood, a member of her tribe, to strangers is some kinda' selfless act. In truth, a mom giving away her own flesh-n-blood is the weak act of a vulnerable, brainwashed, human being with severely damaged self-esteem!!! No mom willingly, selflessly, gives away her own child to strangers never to see again, or even with the promise of minimal contact, unless she has being programmed to do so by various societal means, for example, via the shameful and condescending programming [brainwashing] of Phil McGraw and his adoption-attorney buddies from their ivory tower. You won't see Sarah Palin giving up any of her grandchildren any time soon! Can't brainwash her! These guys talk about this transfer of human beings from one person to another so lightly - like giving dolls away! We don't trade our dogs away with such callousness and ease! In point of fact, we don't give our dogs away at all! The whole casualness and easiness with which is scary!!! Sounded like phraseology that Adolph Hitler espoused! [Retrospectively, the presentation of the content of last Friday's show in an off sort of way seemed like it was fun for Phil McGraw and his cronies when, in reality, they should have been humbled by the sheer nature of the sacred subject at hand - family. Phil McGraw wasn't NEARLY as pugnacious and stern, strict, as he was in his interview with SINGLE mom, Nadya Suleman. We conjecture you do get more with the sweetness and casual flow of honey....]
B R A I N W A S H # 2:
Equally as disgusting propaganda was Phil McGraw's analogizing of a human being needing to know his, or her, ancestry as mere CURIOSITY. What is his exact background in the adoption process and adoption loss? He can do this to them because adoptees inherently have low self-esteem surrounding being allowed to know their personal and private information which every other American citizen casually and naturally takes for granted like God, Nature, had intended.
Via telephone, a female adoptee on the program shared of her adoptive dad being upset about her having connected with her ancestry. She wanted the answer to the simple question, "Who am I?" Her adoptive dad is upset because she sought out this sacred and solemn information that every other human being just simply takes for granted. Who is the parent [adult] in such pervasive guilt trip cases? And who is the child? In adoption, in what-Dr.Phil-haughtily-refers-to-as-a-better-life-for-the-child, why do the adoptees [the children] have to take care of the adoptive parents [the adults]? Phil McGraw wouldn't advocate for this abusive power struggle in any other familial relationship!? Why in adoptions, in what-Dr.Phil-lordlily-refers-to-as-a-better-life-for-the-child, do the children have to sacrifice themselves - their emotions and needs - for the adults!? Shouldn't it, by nature, be the other way around!?
The Reverend Keith C. Griffith, MBE, is of the opinion that "adoption loss is the only trauma in
the world wherein the victims {adoptees} are expected by the whole of society to be grateful."
Human beings are CURIOUS about the "special of the day" on a restaurant menu not essential, natural, imperative answers to solemn and sacred questions like, "What is my nationality? What is my medical history? Who are my relatives? Who do I look like? Do I resemble ANYone in the Universe? Is ANYone out there!? Of what race do I descend? Who are the people that make up my 1st family? Do I have brothers and sisters? I wonder who my father is? I wonder if my mother would want to see? I wonder if she ever thinks about me? What was the name given to me by my 1st mom? WHO AM I!?" That's some idle, trivial curiosity! [Thanks adoption adorers!]
To make a human being, especially a child that you purport to love, feel guilty for seeking the same solemn information that you possess about yourself is despicable and small! Cheap! There are no adjectives to adequately describe such a gut-wrenching scenario!
B R A I N W A S H # 3:
Phil McGraw and his adoption-attorney buddies falsely and horrifically advertised that "...through adoption EVERYBODY WINS and the single moms who give away their kids to others can then merrily GO ON WITH THEIR LIVES knowing they DID THE RIGHT THING... they should be grateful, in fact...," they have repented for the sin of premarital sex. The casualness and easiness with which is scary!!! Sounds like phraseology that Adolph Hitler put forth - the parents of his Hitler Youth group were jailed if they didn't comply and give up their kids....
Where do Phil McGraw and his cronies get the above imbecilic information about family separation!? Who's educating these guys!?
Hmmmmm ~
This is so unfathomable that we must examine, once again, if we are understanding this SELFISH, twisted, logic correctly. Let us tie this brainwash together. Let us know if we're wrong. Phil McGraw and his cronies-in- adoption concurred adamantly that the single mom must (1) be selfless (2) give away her baby to a deserving married couple (3) go on with her life, which we naturally assume means go to college or, perhaps, get a piddling job, instead of raising her child (4) know that she has done the right thing (5) be grateful that someone took the kid off her unworthy hands. From this we conclude, in essence, that infertile couples, gays, other singles... feel entitled to other people's children. It's like in the animal kingdom - the entitled prey on the weak or vulnerable or young. Infertile people believe that single young moms should just plainly "...give us one and go in your corner and pop out another litter. You CAN have more! Come on, spread the wealth! Share those genes! Be your brother's keeper! You're nothing but trailer [park] trash, anyway! You don't deserve a child!"
To what, of course, we simply and fervidly ask, "Well? What if the single mom has secondary infertility!? Our Creator, Nature, has already given to her the gift of one child!"
You say what, "Tough s--t!?"
Well that's a fine how-de-do!
The Reverend Keith C. Griffith, MBE, is of the opinion that "adoption loss is the only trauma in the world wherein the victims {moms} are expected by the whole of society to be grateful."
The audacity!? [On behalf of all single moms, past, present, and future] Vehemently, WE PUSH BACK! YOU give YOUR kids away and YOU win and YOU go on with YOUR life knowing YOU have done the right thing!!! YOU be YOUR brother's keeper!
The audacity!? What're you guys doing in the personal reproductive organs of our single, young women!?
The view of family life according to Phil McGraw and his adoption cronies just doesn't FEEL right! Ask any thinking individual! There are no healthy parents, rich or poor, that would give their children away for a better life! Not on your life! And Phil McGraw knows that. WE'RE WAITING FOR PHIL MCGRAW TO THROW GOD INTO THE ADOPTION MIX! We know that he's thinking it! He wouldn't dare throw in religion; although, we know that he'd love to tell single moms what society already thinks, "You have sinned, my child. God wants you to give the product of that sin to deserving infertile married couples who have followed the rules of society, then you'll be forgiven! Only then can you, harlot, rejoin society!" Albeit, in essence, isn't that what he and his comrades are saying behind the "be selfless" trick/facade? That "be selfless" bit sounds so much like religion, doesn't it? The whole adoption brainwash is CREEPY!
Hey! Over there! Leave your child, the most valuable thing you'll ever have in life. You go take some classes, instead, dear!'
By the way ~
Adoption attorneys and adoption agencies JUST recently started so-called "open adoptions," ONLY because business is slow - no kids! They even shamelessly call it "a marketing tool!" In addition, many infertile couples prefer adopting children from the, especially, vulnerable overseas market because the ancestry of the adoptee is further away. Not much chance of intrusion. This is not a whim! Prospective adoptive parents have thoroughly thought through their predation; while, on the other hand, vulnerable, innocent, unsuspecting, moms are being the proverbial "selfless" good girls! [Thanks Phil McGraw!]
WHAT AUDACITY IT MUST TAKE to sit in the ivory tower of Phil McGraw and his adoption cronies and tell single moms what they should do with their lives and the lives of their children!!!?
U N B E L I E V A B L Y ~
Phil McGraw and his cronies promise that SINGLE MOMS WIN BY GIVING THEIR CHILDREN TO OTHERS! A PARENT WINS BY GIVING HER VERY LIFE TO OTHERS!??? This logic we cannot grasp intellectually at all because we know that to parents everywhere, their children ARE their lives!!!
So ~
Since Phil McGraw and his cronies think it's perfectly legal and moral to advertise for adoptive parents to "keep doin' it" [adopting] and single moms to keep 'em comin' [supplying the kids], we think it's appropriate and obligatory of us to say that losing a child to adoption is a horrific and painful and unseemly act! In point of fact, it's worse! We cannot think of adequate adjectives to describe the personal holocaust of losing a child, as any parent who has lost a child will attest to. The insufferable grief never ends! Nor does it subside with time! Time does not heal all wounds. "Time heals all wounds" is another idiotic aphorism of our antiquated, Puritanical, illustrious, patriarchal past! [Thanks idiotic patriarchs!] If you don't believe us, feel free to ask any parent who has lost a child! Don't be bashful.
SINGLE MOMS: DON'T DIM YOUR OWN LIGHT! For anybody! Ever! [Oprah says so!]
SINGLE MOMS: THINK LIKE A MAN & ACT LIKE A LADY! [Steve Harvey says so! It's even the title of his new book!]
SINGLE MOMS: DON'T DO IT!!! SECONDARY INFERTILITY!?
SINGLE MOMS: KEEP UP THE GOOD FIGHT!
{ We would like to take this opportunity to thank Dr. Phil and his staff for airing such a program, thus allowing for this chance debate and hopeful edification of the public anent the trauma of family separation. We feel somewhat uncomfortable about the harshness of this evaluation, critique, as it pertains to our beloved Dr. Phil, but you, as a society, have not listened! We understand that you are uneducated about adoption loss. Or, perhaps, you know all about it and just don't care, which quite frankly we think is the case. YOU [plural] just don't care! You have left us no choice! We feel bad that we have had to stoop.... }
There are quite a few particulars worth noting about Dr. Phil's December 11, 2009, show but many of them allude us after the fact. We regret not having taken notes. We didn't because we erroneously reckoned, "We've come a long way, baby!" with respect to the public's knowledge of adoption. Dr. Phil proved us VERY wrong!
Phil McGraw is still impassionedly on the side of infertile couples separating natural families and we are on the side of natural families - all extended family members - moms, dads, uncles, aunts, nieces, nephews, cousins, grandparents.... We're on the side of preserving the natural solidarity of family tribes. We're on the side of ancestral preservation, the stability and preservation of progeny... how many different ways can we say it so you'll understand and stop it!? Perhaps we're missing something here? Keeping families together is perfectly logical to us! What is not perfectly logical or moral or ethical to us is the DOGGED attempt to break these natural, numinous, UNbreakable unions or ties or bonds bestowed on each of us by Nature, by our Creator! Can't be done! Can't break the bond - for it is written! The historical blueprint is written in the deoxyribonucleic acid [DNA] of The Universe!!!
B R A I N W A S H # 1:
The disgusting propaganda that stood out most throughout the show is the manner in which Phil McGraw and his adoption attorney-buddies gave it their best shot urging vulnerable single moms to BE SELFLESS - keep the kids a' comin' - for infertile couples to adopt!
One way they did this is by "brainwash through flattery," such as, selfless, and other adjectives which allude us. The adjective, selfless, was glaring! The word, selfless, means unselfish, "having little or no concern or value for oneself," not an attribute at all cherished or respected or revered or propagandized by our society in any other venue but single parenthood. Odd!? Good way to make money, though!
Phil McGraw and his cronies [the 2 adoption attorneys on the show] sounded like misogynists. According to them, single moms must be UNselfish and give away their offspring, as casually as children would give away their toys. They concurred adamantly that single moms must be selfless and give away their children to others and go on with their lives, which we naturally assume means give away their kids and go to college instead or, perhaps, get a piddling job.
Hmmmmm ~
Let us see if we are understanding these generous tips from the self-proclaimed elite? Single moms should be selfish about furthering their education but UNselfish [selfless] about keeping something as valuable and irreplaceable as THEIR CHILDREN? WHO would even compare the two!? What kind of an idiot would equate the life of your child - YOUR life - your ancestry, and your progeny, to a few classes - 4 years of college!!!? People who make money off of these separations, that's who! Phil McGraw slinkily makes money off of adoption - he needs variety in his shows to stay [in business] on the air, and adoption sells; whereas, Phil McGraw's adoption-attorney buddies outrightly and brazenly make money from family separation! Adoption is a billion dollar industry!
Phil McGraw has his defense all prepared, though; he'll say his gig is homes for foster kids. But we know that infertile couples are picky - they want healthy white infants!
~ [Please don't start that s--t about single moms give their kids for adoption because they love them! Don't insult our intelligence and that of the viewing audience!]The 3 of these self-proclaimed adoption advocates, Phil McGraw and the more vocal of the 2 adoption attorneys attempted to pull of their flimflam by promulgating what a great and heroic and selfless act the separation of a child from his, or her, mom, dad, and extended family members is. Adoption adorers keep trying to plant, and replant, the adoption seed - they've now resorted to complimenting, sweet-talking, vulnerable young single females, and their families, everywhere into giving their children, grandchildren, nieces, cousins... away to complete strangers - an utterly irrational, unnatural, act. An act completely counter to what God, Nature, had obviously intended!
We would like to ask the adoption attorney, D. Durand Cook, who advertises on Phil McGraw's website: Did Attorney Cook write that come-hither example on his own website of a letter from a mom to her lost child!? A mom supposedly wrote a letter to her child lost to adoption in which ...she averred that she gave her child away because she loved him.... [Makes all kinds of sense to us!!!] Clearly, the reason for this type of advertisement filled with shameless lies on an adoption website is to convince vulnerable single moms to "do the right thing and give up your offspring for adoption" and to assure infertile couples and adoptive parents "it's the right thing to do, go ahead, and adopt the offspring of vulnerable moms." And, if perchance, a mom did, indeed, write such a silly letter to her lost child, we know, "We, human beings, all think and do what we must to survive trauma, especially we delude and lie to ourselves profusely! It's perfectly natural to summon our 'defense mechanisms' to come to our aid. It's a matter of survival!"
~ We're also wondering what is the adoption background of these 3 self-proclaimed adoption experts that comprised the Friday, December 11, 2009, show!? We're curious because we know that mental health professionals and attorneys haven't been heretofore educated about adoption at all. There haven't been any classes in college, and the moms of yesteryear who have had children crudely ripped from them for adoption via various, methodical, societal trickery haven't begun speaking out yet; no research has been done. From whence are these guys getting their expertise? Do they just make it up as they go along!? [For further edification about "societal trickery," please see other adoption posts in this blogcast.]
~ We ask Phil McGraw and his adoption cronies and all of you who are gungho about adoption: Which one of your children would you like to give away? Just as we thought. You're all for adoption when you're the taker, but not so much when you're the giver! What makes you think single parents would enjoy giving their children away to someone else? What makes you think that single moms would be so selfless when you would not be? We know why you make one set of rules for yourself and one set of rules for the underdog. You've been ripping off offspring from unsuspecting, vulnerable, single moms for so long - since YOU made fallen women wear "the scarlet letter." You've been ripping off offspring for so many decades under the guise of the single mom being a sinful, fallen, woman that it has become second nature to you - natural - you think you have the right! That's why! And let's not forget, there's the big bucks in it, too! Adoption is a billion dollar industry!
All pregnant women and new moms are completely and absolutely vulnerable because hormones are raging vehemently, and to take advantage of females in this state, to attempt to take the child of a mother at her most vulnerable time is... quite frankly, there are no adjectives to describe how despicable such an act is! This leads us to believe that a female still in 2010 will not be safe without the marital protection of a husband because the vultures are out there. We thought we were out of the Paleolithic Age but we must remember troglodytes still lurk! In the past, vulnerable young, and older, single pregnant females were merely shamed, disgraced, ostracized, [brainwashed] out of their children; whereas today young vulnerable moms are still shamed [brainwashed] into giving away their children, but they're also complimented, praised [brainwashed] into giving their offspring away. Shame is not working as well as it did in the completely compliant past. Although, in some religious families, and circles, for instance, shame still works quite nicely, in point of fact.
Why are the sex acts and reproductive organs of young females, young moms, the business of so many OTHER people!? So many other MEN!? Seems incestuous!? Like sexual abuse!?
Phil McGraw and his cronies are spreading THE LIE that a mom giving away her flesh-n-blood, a member of her tribe, to strangers is some kinda' selfless act. In truth, a mom giving away her own flesh-n-blood is the weak act of a vulnerable, brainwashed, human being with severely damaged self-esteem!!! No mom willingly, selflessly, gives away her own child to strangers never to see again, or even with the promise of minimal contact, unless she has being programmed to do so by various societal means, for example, via the shameful and condescending programming [brainwashing] of Phil McGraw and his adoption-attorney buddies from their ivory tower. You won't see Sarah Palin giving up any of her grandchildren any time soon! Can't brainwash her! These guys talk about this transfer of human beings from one person to another so lightly - like giving dolls away! We don't trade our dogs away with such callousness and ease! In point of fact, we don't give our dogs away at all! The whole casualness and easiness with which is scary!!! Sounded like phraseology that Adolph Hitler espoused! [Retrospectively, the presentation of the content of last Friday's show in an off sort of way seemed like it was fun for Phil McGraw and his cronies when, in reality, they should have been humbled by the sheer nature of the sacred subject at hand - family. Phil McGraw wasn't NEARLY as pugnacious and stern, strict, as he was in his interview with SINGLE mom, Nadya Suleman. We conjecture you do get more with the sweetness and casual flow of honey....]
B R A I N W A S H # 2:
Equally as disgusting propaganda was Phil McGraw's analogizing of a human being needing to know his, or her, ancestry as mere CURIOSITY. What is his exact background in the adoption process and adoption loss? He can do this to them because adoptees inherently have low self-esteem surrounding being allowed to know their personal and private information which every other American citizen casually and naturally takes for granted like God, Nature, had intended.
Via telephone, a female adoptee on the program shared of her adoptive dad being upset about her having connected with her ancestry. She wanted the answer to the simple question, "Who am I?" Her adoptive dad is upset because she sought out this sacred and solemn information that every other human being just simply takes for granted. Who is the parent [adult] in such pervasive guilt trip cases? And who is the child? In adoption, in what-Dr.Phil-haughtily-refers-to-as-a-better-life-for-the-child, why do the adoptees [the children] have to take care of the adoptive parents [the adults]? Phil McGraw wouldn't advocate for this abusive power struggle in any other familial relationship!? Why in adoptions, in what-Dr.Phil-lordlily-refers-to-as-a-better-life-for-the-child, do the children have to sacrifice themselves - their emotions and needs - for the adults!? Shouldn't it, by nature, be the other way around!?
The Reverend Keith C. Griffith, MBE, is of the opinion that "adoption loss is the only trauma in
the world wherein the victims {adoptees} are expected by the whole of society to be grateful."
Human beings are CURIOUS about the "special of the day" on a restaurant menu not essential, natural, imperative answers to solemn and sacred questions like, "What is my nationality? What is my medical history? Who are my relatives? Who do I look like? Do I resemble ANYone in the Universe? Is ANYone out there!? Of what race do I descend? Who are the people that make up my 1st family? Do I have brothers and sisters? I wonder who my father is? I wonder if my mother would want to see? I wonder if she ever thinks about me? What was the name given to me by my 1st mom? WHO AM I!?" That's some idle, trivial curiosity! [Thanks adoption adorers!]
To make a human being, especially a child that you purport to love, feel guilty for seeking the same solemn information that you possess about yourself is despicable and small! Cheap! There are no adjectives to adequately describe such a gut-wrenching scenario!
B R A I N W A S H # 3:
Phil McGraw and his adoption-attorney buddies falsely and horrifically advertised that "...through adoption EVERYBODY WINS and the single moms who give away their kids to others can then merrily GO ON WITH THEIR LIVES knowing they DID THE RIGHT THING... they should be grateful, in fact...," they have repented for the sin of premarital sex. The casualness and easiness with which is scary!!! Sounds like phraseology that Adolph Hitler put forth - the parents of his Hitler Youth group were jailed if they didn't comply and give up their kids....
Where do Phil McGraw and his cronies get the above imbecilic information about family separation!? Who's educating these guys!?
Hmmmmm ~
This is so unfathomable that we must examine, once again, if we are understanding this SELFISH, twisted, logic correctly. Let us tie this brainwash together. Let us know if we're wrong. Phil McGraw and his cronies-in- adoption concurred adamantly that the single mom must (1) be selfless (2) give away her baby to a deserving married couple (3) go on with her life, which we naturally assume means go to college or, perhaps, get a piddling job, instead of raising her child (4) know that she has done the right thing (5) be grateful that someone took the kid off her unworthy hands. From this we conclude, in essence, that infertile couples, gays, other singles... feel entitled to other people's children. It's like in the animal kingdom - the entitled prey on the weak or vulnerable or young. Infertile people believe that single young moms should just plainly "...give us one and go in your corner and pop out another litter. You CAN have more! Come on, spread the wealth! Share those genes! Be your brother's keeper! You're nothing but trailer [park] trash, anyway! You don't deserve a child!"
To what, of course, we simply and fervidly ask, "Well? What if the single mom has secondary infertility!? Our Creator, Nature, has already given to her the gift of one child!"
You say what, "Tough s--t!?"
Well that's a fine how-de-do!
The Reverend Keith C. Griffith, MBE, is of the opinion that "adoption loss is the only trauma in the world wherein the victims {moms} are expected by the whole of society to be grateful."
The audacity!? [On behalf of all single moms, past, present, and future] Vehemently, WE PUSH BACK! YOU give YOUR kids away and YOU win and YOU go on with YOUR life knowing YOU have done the right thing!!! YOU be YOUR brother's keeper!
The audacity!? What're you guys doing in the personal reproductive organs of our single, young women!?
The view of family life according to Phil McGraw and his adoption cronies just doesn't FEEL right! Ask any thinking individual! There are no healthy parents, rich or poor, that would give their children away for a better life! Not on your life! And Phil McGraw knows that. WE'RE WAITING FOR PHIL MCGRAW TO THROW GOD INTO THE ADOPTION MIX! We know that he's thinking it! He wouldn't dare throw in religion; although, we know that he'd love to tell single moms what society already thinks, "You have sinned, my child. God wants you to give the product of that sin to deserving infertile married couples who have followed the rules of society, then you'll be forgiven! Only then can you, harlot, rejoin society!" Albeit, in essence, isn't that what he and his comrades are saying behind the "be selfless" trick/facade? That "be selfless" bit sounds so much like religion, doesn't it? The whole adoption brainwash is CREEPY!
Hey! Over there! Leave your child, the most valuable thing you'll ever have in life. You go take some classes, instead, dear!'
By the way ~
Adoption attorneys and adoption agencies JUST recently started so-called "open adoptions," ONLY because business is slow - no kids! They even shamelessly call it "a marketing tool!" In addition, many infertile couples prefer adopting children from the, especially, vulnerable overseas market because the ancestry of the adoptee is further away. Not much chance of intrusion. This is not a whim! Prospective adoptive parents have thoroughly thought through their predation; while, on the other hand, vulnerable, innocent, unsuspecting, moms are being the proverbial "selfless" good girls! [Thanks Phil McGraw!]
WHAT AUDACITY IT MUST TAKE to sit in the ivory tower of Phil McGraw and his adoption cronies and tell single moms what they should do with their lives and the lives of their children!!!?
U N B E L I E V A B L Y ~
Phil McGraw and his cronies promise that SINGLE MOMS WIN BY GIVING THEIR CHILDREN TO OTHERS! A PARENT WINS BY GIVING HER VERY LIFE TO OTHERS!??? This logic we cannot grasp intellectually at all because we know that to parents everywhere, their children ARE their lives!!!
So ~
Since Phil McGraw and his cronies think it's perfectly legal and moral to advertise for adoptive parents to "keep doin' it" [adopting] and single moms to keep 'em comin' [supplying the kids], we think it's appropriate and obligatory of us to say that losing a child to adoption is a horrific and painful and unseemly act! In point of fact, it's worse! We cannot think of adequate adjectives to describe the personal holocaust of losing a child, as any parent who has lost a child will attest to. The insufferable grief never ends! Nor does it subside with time! Time does not heal all wounds. "Time heals all wounds" is another idiotic aphorism of our antiquated, Puritanical, illustrious, patriarchal past! [Thanks idiotic patriarchs!] If you don't believe us, feel free to ask any parent who has lost a child! Don't be bashful.
SINGLE MOMS: DON'T DIM YOUR OWN LIGHT! For anybody! Ever! [Oprah says so!]
SINGLE MOMS: THINK LIKE A MAN & ACT LIKE A LADY! [Steve Harvey says so! It's even the title of his new book!]
SINGLE MOMS: DON'T DO IT!!! SECONDARY INFERTILITY!?
Don't give your child for others to adopt! There's help out there! [Too bad adoption titans!] Hospitals and other organizations provide help and classes even to teenaged single moms so they are able to keep their children and raise them wholesomely. [These organizations make no money out of separating family members.]
SINGLE MOMS: LIVE SMARTLY!
What if you have secondary infertility? It's very common! Where are you going to get your kids, then? From Phil McGraw!? ALL parents say that their kids, their families, are their life! Where is your life, then? You'll have a childless life. Are you, then, going to adopt? Settle on just a career when God, Nature, has given you the gift of a child? Have some self-esteem about yourself, be there for your child! Just like a mama cub, protect your child from the vultures! Take the advice of Sarah Palin to her own single daughter, Bristol Palin, "You'll just have to grow up fast!"
And to that, we add, "You have your whole life to be a kid. A part of all of us remains a kid at heart, if we're lucky. And that's good!"
Why do you think infertile couples spend all of their time, energy, and money to adopt kids or obtain kids through other artificial means!? Why don't THEY just go on with their lives like they're conning you into doing if a childless life is so fun!? Simply because there is nothing in life that can compare in value to your offspring! A career? Money? Possessions? If you're gambling on being fertile and being able to reproduce again, don't gamble! If you are fortunate enough to reproduce, again, after you give your child for adoption, what of the empty hole you have left your future children? They should not have to live as amputees. Give your future children the gift of taking all of their siblings, their ancestry, for granted. Don't allow their sibling to dangle out in left field somewhere!SINGLE MOMS: DON'T GIVE YOUR CHILDREN AWAY EVER!
Adoption, the separation of family members, is a bloodcurdling institution indefensibly up there with mom, baseball, and apple pie. Adoption must only be employed when children are true orphans and when no other relatives are in sight! It is never ethical or moral to separate a family to create a family!
A "gentleman's agreement" is not enforceable by law! It is only binding as a matter of personal honor! Beware - the adoptive parent is not always honorable!Shame on you selfish and moneygrubbing people!!!
An "open adoption" is done via a "gentleman's agreement." According to such an agreement, dishonorable, unscrupulous, adoptive parents are allowed to move out of town anytime they like and are not obligated to tell the 1st mom of the child where they have moved. What good is it, then!?
SEEK LEGAL ACTION if you find yourself in a so-called "open adoption" which the adoptive parents have reneged on! Typically, open adoption is done by what is known as "a gentleman's agreement" but, beware, the adoptive parent is not always a gentleman or a lady! They have expertise in being selfish. They've fought long and hard to acquire your child. You must learn to be selfish, also, not as giving as you have been heretofore. Toughen up, girl! Don't be so kind!
If you absolutely must physically separate yourself from your child, do not give your child to others without A BINDING CONTRACT! S---w the "gentleman's agreement!"
Carla, who was admirably on the December 11, 2009, show, is the only natural mom we've ever heard of that is fighting, or has fought, adoptive parents who have callously and cowardly (cheap as s--t) reneged on their promise of an open adoption. The rest just wait like the heartwrenching, demeaning, spirit-robbing adoption experience has groomed them - to be silent, passive, amputees.
{ We would like to take this opportunity to thank Dr. Phil and his staff for airing such a program, thus allowing for this chance debate and hopeful edification of the public anent the trauma of family separation. We feel somewhat uncomfortable about the harshness of this evaluation, critique, as it pertains to our beloved Dr. Phil, but you, as a society, have not listened! We understand that you are uneducated about adoption loss. Or, perhaps, you know all about it and just don't care, which quite frankly we think is the case. YOU [plural] just don't care! You have left us no choice! We feel bad that we have had to stoop.... }
Posted by Caleigh Brooks at 12/16/2009 7:10 PM 
Categories: Is Adoption Humane
Tags: dr phil adoption dna family preservation adoption reform steve garvey oprah adoptive parents
Categories: Is Adoption Humane
Tags: dr phil adoption dna family preservation adoption reform steve garvey oprah adoptive parents
Comments