Sinners
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T H E B E S T K E P T S E C R E T
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always
about
sex!
Being a minority
~ the underdog ~
is
serious business!
It's no joke!
Stay informed! You never know when Life [ your shameless neighbor ] is going to pounce on you! Here is one example of how the vulnerable were treated in the 20th century all over the world simply because they were single [ unmarried ]. The film is disgusting and criminal! It takes you back in time - not too far back! Our analysis of the film follows. Please click on the word, "Sinners," below to get an eyeful. Be sure to click on the square icon in the lower right side to see the FULL screen. Enjoy!
"Sinners" * the Video takes you back to the 1960s in the United States and all over the world wherever the pope and his cronies ruled with a mighty fist! They were misogynists of the highest order! During the 1960s - and the decades before and after the 60s - millions of single moms in the United States lost infants to adoption - the ONLY REASON these single moms lost their healthy Caucasian newborn infants is because they were UNMARRIED - FALLEN women! FALLEN MEANS THEY WERE SINNERS! The exact number is illusive but statisticians have concluded that as high as 6 million to 8 million American children were lost in the 20th century to what investigators and researchers term as an experiment! You won't believe it! It's all true! We implore you - please read the WHOLE long post below! And try to see the complete * Video
- T H A N K Y O U ! ! ! for allowing us to share our thoughts with you today! We are humbled!
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- TOPICS AT A GLANCE at the end of this post is a summary of the subject matter of this post for your convenience. Hope it's helpful!
- A single pregnant mom in * the Video is shown SMOKING a cigarette. In the 1960s, it wasn't known yet that smoking is bad for one's health. Puffing on cigarettes was fashionable then. Smoking is yet another product of our idiotic patriarchal past!
- We view the following clarification so important that we have addressed it here in the beginning of this commentary: When we use the terms, ADOPTION INDUSTRY, or ADOPTION TITANS, in this blogcast, we include infertile couples (since they are the demand in the adoption industry), prospective adoptive parents, adoptive parents, and adoptive relatives, adoption agencies, adoption attorneys, adoption workers, social workers... EVERYONE and ANYONE who conspires to take possession of children that don't belong to them!
- Mindbogglingly, so-called mental health professionals today are still not at all educated about the institution of adoption! They just casually think adoption is a great way to create a family for those who are unable to procreate - like going to the supermarket! By way of this commentary and * the Video, we hope to dispel the myth - the lie - the con! We are the voice of the underdog! Feel free to direct mental health professionals, priests, teachers... to this entry. You'll be doing them a favor, a great service! They will thank you for it. They're supposed to have their collective pulse on the Zeitgeist!
- Speaking of mental health professionals... Not all such "homes for unwed mothers" that are depicted in * the Video were run by nuns. To make a long story short - during the early 20th century across the United States, benevolent Christian women operated these "homes for unwed mothers" where unmarried moms would learn how to raise their children and support themselves despite the stigma of illegitimate birth. After World War II, however, social workers saw their chance to make social work a "true" profession and leapt at it! During this dark period of history, social workers pushed out the charity-driven amateurs and these maternity "homes" then became warehouses for young pregnant women and girls. These social workers - the adoption industry - decided it is best to separate the single mother from her child. Social workers convinced the public that THEY are the true "experts in single parenthood."
- The Salvation Army, the National Florence Crittenton Mission/Homes, St. Vincent dePaul Homes for Unwed Mothers { Catholic Charities } and other such reproductive detention centers have been in the business of shamelessly separating families exactly like you see in * the Video. We see that the National Florence Crittenton Home still advertises their wares on their website today, and Catholic Charities may still be in the business in 2010! Beware!
At " Watching The Watchers," we were debating whether to publish this entry under the category in the sidebar of this blogcast, "Violence Against Women" or "Is Adoption Humane?" or "Adoption: The Ultimate Violence!" all of which describe the content of this entry to the hilt! We decided to begin a special category, "Adoption: The Violent Industry!" Particularly abhorrent and flagrant in * the Video is the extent to which the single mom of the not too distant past was punished while the single dad received no repercussions whatsoever - not even a slap on the wrist or a slap across the face.
We thank the perspicacious producers of * the Video, entitled, "Sinners" - BBC Northern Ireland and Parallel Film Productions LTD. Productions - who have absolutely and skillfully and brilliantly captured the aura of the times that we are attempting to describe much better than we are able to describe the barbaric experience of "the single mom of the recent past" by way of the written word. As with anything else in Life, you had to be there, as they say. You be the judge. (We view our use of the adjective, barbaric, in the same breath as "adoption industry" to be an insult to barbarians and we apologize to the barbarians of the world because the experience of the single mom has been worse than barbaric!)
In short, to comply with SOCIETAL MORES (rules), single moms of the past were forced to hide in Homes For Unwed Mothers where they left their newborn infants alone on the adoption block to the highest bidder. After living within the comforting waters of Mommy's tummy for 9 months, these babies were left alone with strangers! (Today some single moms still hide in these "homes.") They did this to protect themselves and their families from ostracism by their society (ostracism by their cheap, low-grade, neighbors - you know who you are). Single moms were forced to sacrifice their children because of the shame, stigma, the disgrace, the AUDACITY of giving birth to one's own offspring while UNmarried. Our goal is to have women, and men, think for themselves and not give a hoot what their low-grade neighbors may think! It's a big world our there! You don't need them! Be smart!
* Despite our honorable, larger-than-Life forefathers of the 18th century guaranteeing in the United States Constitution the right of every parent, single and married, to parent his, or her, own child, the majority in our society decided to ban together and make up its own rules in the 20th century! In other words, your small, conniving, jealous, dishonorable neighbors made up their own rules about single parenthood. This overriding of the Constitution shows just how powerful societal mores can be!
* Our forefathers even went as far as to guarantee that the government will financially help single and married parents who cannot afford to raise their children!
From where did the disconnect between the U.S. Constitution and societal mores sprout? Only since the mid-20th century has there been cyclopean pressure on single parents to give their children for adoption! What has been the source of this haughty pressure? Well, of course - MONEY! and JEALOUSY! and a sense of ENTITLEMENT! (Infertile couples believe, "Hey, we're entitled to a child like everybody else!")
(This whole entry is the answer to the aforementioned question.)
Complete families have been (and still are today) coerced and brainwashed into leaving their illegitimate infants (Please see: Notes #2) for infertile but married strangers who follow societal rules to scoop up. This expiation or remedy or atonement was expected of single parents of the 20th century. When you think about it - the whole dance of married strangers with fertility issues being in "the private sexual space of single parents where they don't belong" reeks of incestuousness of the highest order - this incest would fuel the disgraceful adoption industry of the 20th century!
Single moms were forced to hide just like homosexuals of the past were forced to hide, and illegitimate was the offensive and degrading term used to stigmatize the innocent baby of the single mom who was quickly labeled a slut. The adjective was just another avenue with which to extract the child. To seal the deal! To seal the coffins of single moms who have sinned! To make sure the single mom doesn't rear her ugly little head in the future and to make sure the adoptive parents live in peace and harmony, "Let us totally annihilate the psyche of the single mom so she doesn't come back when the pain gets to be too much to bear," was the thinking! Instead of a literal branding iron, illegitimate was the adjective used to brand the innocent gifts that God - Universe brought forth from the bosom of single moms - yet another concept we can thank our idiotic patriarchs for!
During the mid - 20th century, Homes For Unwed Mothers sprouted up in the United States and all over the globe - not exclusively but mostly wherever the pope and/or Christianity ruled. Inside, and outside, these "homes," vulnerable pregnant women and girls, and their complete vulnerable families, were brainwashed out of their healthy, Caucasian, infants by various means of indoctrination to fuel the multi-billion dollar adoption industry. Researchers have called this separation of families an experiment - a way to legitimize the job of the social worker. Besides the legitimization of the profession of social work, we call the adoption process a distribution of wealth, the wealth being the Caucasian infants.
An adoption execution can cost anywhere from $30,000 to $50,000!!!The law of supply and demand superlatively and quite simply illustrates the execution of adoption. Simply put ~ a booming market existed (and still exists today) and greedy and unscrupulous, entrepreneurs leapt at the opportunity. There was a demand (infertile couples) for a product (healthy Caucasian babies) and tragically the supply was finagled from vulnerable single moms who had no troglodytes to protect them - single moms were elected to pay the ultimate price! The brainwashing techniques by which scheming marketeers extracted infants was stigma, shame, disgrace, the threat of exile, ostracism.... We're tellin' you - our slimy entrepreneurs are slick! The scheme of the adoption industry (remember - infertile couples are the demand in the adoption industry) went something like this, "...Hmmm, let's make single motherhood a disgrace and set up Homes For Unwed Mothers where single moms will be forced to hide to protect their families from exile and 'voila' we've got ourselves an industry... adoption attorneys, adoption agencies, social workers... yeah, we can get rich! And we can use religion to make it all look legal... on the up and up! Who could object to that? Besides - the sluts can always have more kids! What's the harm!? Infertile couples are ENTITLED to raise a family, too! Let's spread the wealth! What's the big deal? They have to learn to follow the rules! They're sinners!"
A few Homes For Unwed Mothers still brazenly and arrogantly exist; albeit, the indoctrination, the brainwashing, the grooming, is much more subtle befitting the times that we live in since shame and stigma... no longer work quite so well. Although, in religious circles, these brainwashing techniques by which to extract children from the vulnerable still work quite nicely. Today slick, shameless, titans advertise on the Internet, "...Pregnant? If you're alone with your secret, we can help...."
In 2010 C.E., procuring infants for infertile couples to adopt is tougher so the adoption industry has conjured up new ways of separating families. There are many new tricks of the { adoption } trade. The following are only 8 new flagrant brainwashing techniques currently used to extricate children from the vulnerable:
Open adoption is supposed to give the natural mom some contact with her child, like pictures, cards, letters, or a yearly visit, as her child grows but the law does not bind adoptive parents to any such farce of a contract. Adoptive parents are allowed to skip town at any time and not let the natural mom know where they've skedaddled with her child. The law protects the adoptive parents! Open adoption is like making an agreement with a handshake.
"Trade ya' - a couple a' pictures a year for your healthy, White, infant!"
The single mom today is given a supposed "choice" of open adoption vs closed adoption but, more often than not, there is a change of heart in midstream for adoptive parents in an open adoption. As these strangers bond with the child that belongs to another, suddenly open adoption is not quite as appealing as before when they would do and say anything to obtain a child.
We don't mind people invoking the name of God during a conversation - even a few times is ok - but every other word gets to be annoying and disrespectful to the listener. It's as if the speaker is attempting to convince the listener that by saying God's name numerous times during a conversation, the listener will be thoroughly convinced that God loves the speaker best. The listener is supposed to rest assured that the speaker is a good person just because he, or she, has mentioned God's name umpteen times. It's immature, childish, of the speaker and insulting to the listener. How often have our eyes glazed over listening to such a speaker? Very often!
* It's usually only one speaker in a conversation that has the pomposity to invoke God's name continually. How comedical would the scenario be with both speakers or many speakers invoking God's name in a conversation at the same time? Shouldn't that be reserved for religion class in school? Usually, it's one kind and generous listener who, with glazed-over eyes, is forced to listen to the overbearing speaker. Don't be so kind all the time, loyal listeners! Take off in midstream! Look at your watch and explain, "Hey! It's been real nice! I gotta' go, now! See ya' later, alligator!"
* The supererogatory use of God's name by weak and brainwashed moms who lose kids to adoption - every other word in a sentence is God's name - borders on "Taking the name of the Lord, thy God, in vain" which, we believe, according to the 2nd Commandment of The 10 Commandments of most religions is something we are commanded not to do. (Please see: Notes #3) Using God's name in vain is a sin according to most religions. God does not need moronic publicity. God has been doing fine without our invoking His name at every turn.
* Besides these brainwashed moms, our political leaders all too often speak, and promote themselves, via the God route. Immature and inadequate "leaders" (underachievers) invoke God's name at every turn, too. We're supposed to be convinced, then, that they're on the straight and narrow. We're supposed to rest assured that they're honorable and trustworthy people. "So, vote for me. God loves me best."
More than likely, we have all spewed one or two profane words in our lifetime even if only under our collective breath. Our illustrious religionists of the past preached that people who are not good at expressing themselves use profanity. We say that people who overly pepper their conversation with God's name are not good at expressing themselves! We assume it's rewarding to blame every move we make on God? We assume it's convenient and comforting to think that we're not responsible for what happens to us in this Life? Don't forget - God always has that reason. We believe this is an irrational way to view Life and God.
At "Watching The Watchers," we love God! Yet, we wouldn't presume to foist our God and religion on you, so please do not foist your religion on us! Keep your private beliefs about your God to yourself during normal conversation about baseball, for instance. The two previous sentences in this paragraph are NOT meant for our loyal readers who Watch The Watchers with us; we totally welcome and encourage our readers to share ALL your beliefs about any and every thing in Life - that's what this venue is for! We learn from each other! WE NEED YOU! to foist your beliefs on us!
Occasionally, or even often, we all tell ourselves positive lies to survive emotional pain and anxiety. These comforting lies are called psychological defense mechanisms which (1) deny, falsify, and distort reality and (2) operate unconsciously so we are not aware of them.
Young moms who succumb to the new trick of open adoption, and adoption, in general, tell themselves positive things to survive the pain. They'll pull up their defense mechanisms to survive the pain and anxiety of creating a child out of wedlock and feeling society's vast pressure to give the child to deserving married strangers who follow the rules; but, with maturity and the wisdom that maturity brings, they will see how they have been taken advantage of - tricked. They will realize that they have been duped. They will realize the enormity of the gifts that they have lost!
* There is no greater gift in Life than the reproduction of oneself - a child! Certainly a piddling job is not greater than the gift of a child! A career is not greater than a child! A house? A car? A college degree? We don't think so! We implore you: you won't try to compare a few college courses to the gift of a child? Will you?
Without summoning their defense mechanisms, moms who lose children to adoptive strangers would be emotionally, and even physically, immobile and couldn't go on with Life. Sometimes, the pain of Life is almost too much to bear. Some defense mechanisms that help us in our time of need are:
* Rationalization
* Repression
* Projection
* Reaction Formation
* Displacement
* Intellectualization
* Suppression
We walk away from the aforementioned 8 NEW BRAINWASHING TECHNIQUES shaking our heads in disbelief and wonderment:
"WHY IS THIS MUCH TIME AND ENERGY NOT SPENT ON KEEPING "THE FAMILY" TOGETHER!?"
For instance, substitute "not read to parent" for "ready to parent," "adoption plan" for "family plan"... Not AS MUCH money in it? Right? We assume there are enough true orphans in the world without extended families to fuel the greed and the sense of entitlement of adopters?
Why don't a few reputable "entrepreneurs" spend a fraction of the time keeping families together!?
We laud the famed and celebrated Cleveland Clinic Hospital in Cleveland, Ohio, for offering parenting classes and support for teen parents, and all parents - classes most of our own parents would have benefited from!
You ask, "Why Caucasian? What about African-American, Chinese... infants?"
Sorry, no adoption market for Black kids in the past. Black single moms and their families were the lucky ones! Their families remained together. Noone wanted to adopt Black kids in the past - or if they did, the patriarchs - leaders - society would not allow adoption across races. Besides that, the White man wanted to keep the Black man down. ( Research supports this theory. ) The White man thought by allowing Blacks to keep their illegitimate kids, the Black man would remain down and out, poor, on welfare, but that's not what happened at all. Black single parents thrived, and continue to thrive, with their families intact. Blacks had the last laugh! We think that after slavery there is just no way that Whitey was taking ( via adoption ) the Black kids, too!
As we have attempted to illustrate, the majority rules - not just in politics! The majority in every society makes the mores/rules that the members of a society will live by. Until recently, an American citizen either followed these societal mores, or rules, or one was simply and casually, even vehemently, ostracized by their simpleton- neighbor. Where does one go after one is exiled from his, or her, society? All victims who have been labeled as unworthy of participating fully in the mainstream of Life, who have been forced to remain in the closet of Life, and who are today inching their way out of the closet, we thank you for your courage and hard work toward dignity and freedom for all! Thank you for paving the way for others!
During our patriarchal past, even single career women who became pregnant lost their infants to adoption just because they were unmarried; these young women certainly earned plenty of money with which to care for their children but the rule is the rule - the societal rule! Keeping their children would have caused them to lose their jobs and landlords would not rent to single moms - and not too long ago, either, a few short decades ago!
More often than not in the past, engaged couples married right after losing a child to adoption; the price of NOT being ostracized by their society, by their goofy neighbors, though, was no illegitimate children allowed - the child of a prospective married couple had to go for adoption! Hard to believe? Right? Well, there's more! Our goofy society even counted backwards 9 months from the birth of a married couple's 1st child to see if the couple had engaged in pre-marital sex! How intrusively incestuous can a society - your neighbor - get!? People should get a Life and stay out of the sexual affairs of their neighbor!
In the past, there was a brave family with self-esteem here and there that kept the child born to a single family member. Sometimes, Grandma or an Aunt would say the illegitimate child is hers and the family was kept together that way. Prior to the 20th century, there was no such entity or institution as adoption! (You won't give the ridiculous example of Moses being adopted by the Pharaoh and therefore taking the children of another is ok! Man, people will stoop to all kinds of trickery! We can safely say we have heard it all!)
Being the underdog is serious business!
In the United States, besides single parents, gays are a minority, too. Gays who have bravely come out of the closet at the wrong time in the 20th century have been killed! Today, we still see the farcical, "Don't ask, don't tell," rule pertaining to homosexuals in the American armed forces. Today, President Ahmadinejad says there are no homosexuals in Iran so we can only assume that any homosexual coming out of the Iranian closet would be jailed or killed.
We don't think vulnerable people realize exactly how SOCIETAL MORES (rules) influence them because the vulnerable are too busy trying to survive and, hence, can be more easily taken advantage of - tricked - when they're not looking! Hold on tight to your dreams! And your kids!
One example of the climate surrounding single moms of the past: In the United States in the year 2000 C.E., a couple friends of "Watching The Watchers" were sitting in the waiting room of a business as a toddler who looked to be of Colombian descent played on the floor. One of them, perhaps, asked the nationality of the cute little boy. "Oh, he's from Peru," the female adult casually and pretty adamantly quipped - there was no doubt in her mind. "Unwed mothers, they hide! The pope runs the country there!" So, everybody knows (and knew in the past) the trick by which babies were, and are, forced from the vulnerable single mom but the single mom! All of the savvy tricksters, including infertile couples, prospective adoptive parents, know (and knew in the past) the various avenues - the brainwashing techniques - used to trick vulnerable families out of their children, and they're obviously ok with it! Hm-hm.
Adoption titans have thought up new nomenclature to help quell the guilt and heart palpitations of infertile couples and adoptive parents throughout the Life of the child they adopt. For instance, the creepy (makes the skin creepy-crawl) and politically-incorrect, demeaning, insulting term, birthmother, allows infertile couples to rationalize (a defense mechanism) in their own minds and convince themselves that it's ok to take the child that is born from the body, the egg and semen, and the ancestry of another! That takes some doing - taking the child that doesn't belong to you takes some doing! What audacity it must take!? A male New York mental health professional who is also adopted, and THE ONLY internationally-renowned and respected EXPERT in adoption, and also friend of "Watching The Watchers" says he couldn't take a goldfish from another!
To quell the guilt of - to groom - prospective adoptive parents, the titans of adoption have invented the term, birthmother, which implies distance between the single mom and her child - the term is meant to make her appear like a non-mother! It is analogous to the n-word. The adoption industry is currently considering the use of the term, birther, when referring to the natural mother of an adopted child. (How do ya' like that one, ladies and girls? Are you insulted, yet!?) The industry continues to stoop to new lows! Why not just call her an incubator!? Or, a baby machine? Single moms, hold on tight to your dreams! And your kids! Or be smart and get some troglodytes to protect you, if you must!
Of course, there will always be some vulnerable single mom with low self-esteem who will not realize that she is being insulted and demeaned and programmed by the use of the disgusting term - birthmother. The subtle, yet profound, brainwashing continues throughout her Life each time she is called birthmother - long after mom is separated from her child. To keep the single mom in her place, to assure she won't interfere with adoptive parents, the brainwashing continues in all sorts of media, for instance! The use of that word subtly and profoundly reminds her that she only gave birth to a child!
More accurate and acceptable terms are natural mom (a mom created by God or nature) or 1st mom. Or, how about just plain ole' mom? Leave the adopted kid with some dignity! Let him just have two moms! We do it all the time with stepchildren! Why do you put the adoption noose around the neck of the child born to a single mom? Isn't Life tough enough without the extra weight and burden of dealing with adoption's repercussions throughout the lifetime of the adopted individual? The stigma of adoption always lingers. Not to mention the equally and superlatively unnecessary noose around the neck of the single mom - the extra weight and burden of dealing with adoption's repercussions throughout the lifetime of the single mom! Isn't Life tough enough!?
A few short decades ago, it was like "the end of the world" for a family to discover that an unmarried daughter is pregnant. The unmarried son? Not so much! He was thought of as a he-man, an Italian- Stallion, for instance. In some indoctrinated religious circles, today, this scenario is still traumatic for the daughter in a family and still not at all traumatic for the son. We, of course, feel that every child is a gift to every family, and tribe, into which the child is born! The unmarried mom is not a baby machine or incubator for infertile couples! What audacity it must take to finagle the child from another!
There's a television ad out. Don't let the television ad that Sarah's daughter (Bristol) is promoting discourage you! In the ad, Bristol condescendingly claims that her family's wealth and fame enable her to keep HER illegitimate child something which the average young single mom won't be able to do as easily, she says. Like a haughty parent, Bristol attempts to teach us, "Don't do as I do, do as I say! What's good for me is not good for you!" That methodology never worked for any other parent down through the ages! Why will it suddenly change the collective minds and sexual habits of a world audience of young kids when Bristol says it? Pretty haughty!? Huh? Bristol Palin is just trying to save face by way of those ads! Certainly her peers don't watch Fox News, where the ad was advertised. Bristol's handlers really think you people are dummies! RICH, or POOR, there is just no way that anyone else is getting their slimy paws on Sarah Palin's grandchild! Just try it! She'll use that rifle ( that she always speaks of ) on you! Keeping and raising your child is all about self-esteem!
* In Indian culture (India), one's name tells the whole heritage and story of one's Life, the house one lives in, perhaps even the street on which one lives.
* Hebrew names tell the whole identifying story, too.
* In European villages, one's home is referred to by the name of the previous resident who resided there, perhaps, decades or a century earlier. For instance, the name of one's home or house would be alluded to with something like, "Oh, yeah, Caleigh Brooks lives by the Smith's," and the Smith family likely lived in the house decades or centuries earlier. Across the board, the emphasis is on family and heritage, as it should be.
ALL PARENTS WHO THINK PARENTING IS SO DIFFICULT, JUST PUT YOUR KIDS UP FOR ADOPTION! What's the problem!?
Don't let "them" fool you! Parenting children is quite simple, and enjoyable! (Of course, parenting children with mental illness is sad and not quite as enjoyable as parenting should be.) We believe wholeheartedly that the root of problems with children is the inadequacy of parents - poor parenting skills! (Go ahead! Ask Dr. Phil!) We believe that infants are "blank slates" - tabula rasa. If you run into a problem, a crick in the road of parenting, "Seek professional help! Don't cry about it! Get yourself and your children some counseling!" (something most of our parents could have used)
Have some self-esteem about yourselves! Parent smartly! Single moms, don't be martyrs! Don't give your irreplaceabe gifts away! Don't give a part of yourself away! Otherwise, well be hearing from a tearful you in a couple of decades after you haven't been able to produce any other children. Sometimes, God only gives us the gift of ONE child! Young vulnerable moms think that since they gave birth once, they will give birth a 2nd time, but as we all know this is not always the case.
We are also well aware that one child does not replace another! Giving birth to a 2nd child doesn't replace the 1st child. A mom always remembers! So, just take the gift that God - Universe has given you and run with it! Enjoy!
Take parenting your child one step at a time, one day at a time, like everyone else does! Don't think of the whole legal 18 years of parenting a child to adulthood all at once! Nobody else does! That's what the adoption industry wants you to do! Don't be so hard on yourself! That's what the adoption industry is counting on! The adoption industry has their proverbial fingers crossed hoping you'll talk yourself right out of parenting your child! Family separators, that includes adoptive families, are VERY shrewd! They're likely older than you and more experienced at Life.
So, to those who, insultingly, keep insisting that parenting is the hardest job in the world, we say:
Why is there so little value placed on family and heritage in 2010 C.E. in the United States!? Because the media is powerful and because adoptive parents minimize the single parent in the media every day - just by virtue of possessing the child of the single parent! The losers of the children are never on television or in any other kind of media! The media doesn't want to hear from those families who have lost kids to adoption! Why is that!? Because the adoption industry is too powerful! Adoptive families are big spenders. Single parents are presumed to be poor and inferior! (See how "they" think about you!?) Adoptive families it is presumed buy the products that the media advertises! Also, the media feels that single parents are depressing - trailer-park trash! Why put them on tv?
Don't allow the media to keep sending out the message to society that your family is unimportant! The way to stop the media from broadcasting your unimportance is don't allow your relatives to be adopted! Here are some questions to ponder about the media:
* Why are only adoptive parents in the media touting their adoptive lives?
* Why are single moms who lose kids to adoption not allowed the same voice in the media? Why are single parents not given the same access to the media that adoptive parents enjoy?
* Why don't callous adoptive parents and the media give one iota about hurting the feelings of the millions of families from whom the kids have been extracted while single moms, and their families, who are tricked out of their kids continue to protect the feelings of the adoptive parents? Who the hell are you, adoptive strangers!? Those days are over, baby! The flagrant and brazenly joyous flaunting of the human acquisitions of adoptive parents in the media - - - the utter disrespect and disregard for the feelings of the natural parents who have been separated from their children through adoption - - - are why we have no qualms about being as frank and honest as we have been in this commentary! YOU would want nothing less? Would you!? Riiiight? Honesty is the best policy!? Riiiight? What's good for the goose, we assume, is still good for the gander! Riiiight!?
* Why is the victim still expected, forced, to protect the aggressor/predator in 2010 C.E.? That is the ultimate question. In societies across the globe, (1) single moms are, first, tricked out of their children and then (2) single moms are expected to elevate the adoptive parents/predators and lower themselves!? SINGLE MOMS ARE TRICKED OUT OF THEIR KIDS BY STRANGERS, AND THEN PRAISE THE STRANGERS! We'll tell you: Victimization is a bitch! { Pardon our French. Frankly, we vehemently resent the bad connotation that our idiotic patriarchs have foisted on our beautiful, intelligent, female dogs! }
* If single moms who lose their kids to adoption do such a good thing, why don't we hear from them? Or about them!? Why does the media push single moms to the background? If adoption is so great, why the big secret? Because out in the open, adoption wouldn't fly so well! How long should the shame of bearing a child while single linger? Why are adoptive parents made so superior?
We think this says it all!
Why are you not important in your society? Because advertising single moms who lose the kids to adoption wouldn't be good for business! Adoption would be seen as the disgusting and predatory act that it is! Single moms, and families, you owe it to those who will come after you to keep your families together! Don't elevate others and put yourselves down! Elevate yourselves! Don't praise others by remaining in the background! Don't defer to people! It's a big world out there! Get help!
For once, he put a positive spin on NOT putting a child on the adoption block! (Please see: Notes #4) On a recent Dr. Phil show, he said, "Don't think that your family is too dysfunctional for you to keep and raise your baby. My family, and childhood, was so dysfunctional that, if anything, social workers would have put us up for adoption!" The audience chuckled at the way he contradicted a pregnant mom who was thinking about adoption for her child because her brother is supposedly dysfunctional. Thanks, Dr. Phil, for once telling the truth about adoption! Show us a family that is not dysfunctional and we'll show you a family that IS dysfunctional because - anyone who thinks his, or her, family is perfect is obviously dysfunctional AND delusional!
#1 *The Video is disgusting! And criminal!
#2 The illegitimate stamp: For your enjoyment and elucidation we looked up the definition of the adjective, illegitimate, on Dictionary.com which is one of our favorite websites. We're curious whether this term is still stamped on the birth certificates of the offspring of single parents? And when did that change?
( Single moms of the past weren't allowed to put the name of the dads on the birth certificates of their children. The industry didn't want to know. "They" didn't want a dad around to complicate things! )
Would the powerful people really still have the nerve in 2010 C.E.!?
You can thank our idiotic patriarchs for yet another disgusting custom of the United States!
Below is the heavy noose put around the neck of an innocent gift from God - Universe. Illegitimate is the label by which the adoption industry has separated, and continues to separate, vulnerable families! The aura of "the illegitimate child" is still alive and well in the 21st century! Illegitimate means:
#4 Dr. Phil is an American psychologist who has his own hour-long daily television program during which he helps people with psychological problems of the day. Billionaire Oprah Winfrey made Dr. Phil who he is today.
We thank the perspicacious producers of * the Video, entitled, "Sinners" - BBC Northern Ireland and Parallel Film Productions LTD. Productions - who have absolutely and skillfully and brilliantly captured the aura of the times that we are attempting to describe much better than we are able to describe the barbaric experience of "the single mom of the recent past" by way of the written word. As with anything else in Life, you had to be there, as they say. You be the judge. (We view our use of the adjective, barbaric, in the same breath as "adoption industry" to be an insult to barbarians and we apologize to the barbarians of the world because the experience of the single mom has been worse than barbaric!)
In short, to comply with SOCIETAL MORES (rules), single moms of the past were forced to hide in Homes For Unwed Mothers where they left their newborn infants alone on the adoption block to the highest bidder. After living within the comforting waters of Mommy's tummy for 9 months, these babies were left alone with strangers! (Today some single moms still hide in these "homes.") They did this to protect themselves and their families from ostracism by their society (ostracism by their cheap, low-grade, neighbors - you know who you are). Single moms were forced to sacrifice their children because of the shame, stigma, the disgrace, the AUDACITY of giving birth to one's own offspring while UNmarried. Our goal is to have women, and men, think for themselves and not give a hoot what their low-grade neighbors may think! It's a big world our there! You don't need them! Be smart!
* Despite our honorable, larger-than-Life forefathers of the 18th century guaranteeing in the United States Constitution the right of every parent, single and married, to parent his, or her, own child, the majority in our society decided to ban together and make up its own rules in the 20th century! In other words, your small, conniving, jealous, dishonorable neighbors made up their own rules about single parenthood. This overriding of the Constitution shows just how powerful societal mores can be!
* Our forefathers even went as far as to guarantee that the government will financially help single and married parents who cannot afford to raise their children!
From where did the disconnect between the U.S. Constitution and societal mores sprout? Only since the mid-20th century has there been cyclopean pressure on single parents to give their children for adoption! What has been the source of this haughty pressure? Well, of course - MONEY! and JEALOUSY! and a sense of ENTITLEMENT! (Infertile couples believe, "Hey, we're entitled to a child like everybody else!")
(This whole entry is the answer to the aforementioned question.)
Complete families have been (and still are today) coerced and brainwashed into leaving their illegitimate infants (Please see: Notes #2) for infertile but married strangers who follow societal rules to scoop up. This expiation or remedy or atonement was expected of single parents of the 20th century. When you think about it - the whole dance of married strangers with fertility issues being in "the private sexual space of single parents where they don't belong" reeks of incestuousness of the highest order - this incest would fuel the disgraceful adoption industry of the 20th century!
Single moms were forced to hide just like homosexuals of the past were forced to hide, and illegitimate was the offensive and degrading term used to stigmatize the innocent baby of the single mom who was quickly labeled a slut. The adjective was just another avenue with which to extract the child. To seal the deal! To seal the coffins of single moms who have sinned! To make sure the single mom doesn't rear her ugly little head in the future and to make sure the adoptive parents live in peace and harmony, "Let us totally annihilate the psyche of the single mom so she doesn't come back when the pain gets to be too much to bear," was the thinking! Instead of a literal branding iron, illegitimate was the adjective used to brand the innocent gifts that God - Universe brought forth from the bosom of single moms - yet another concept we can thank our idiotic patriarchs for!
During the mid - 20th century, Homes For Unwed Mothers sprouted up in the United States and all over the globe - not exclusively but mostly wherever the pope and/or Christianity ruled. Inside, and outside, these "homes," vulnerable pregnant women and girls, and their complete vulnerable families, were brainwashed out of their healthy, Caucasian, infants by various means of indoctrination to fuel the multi-billion dollar adoption industry. Researchers have called this separation of families an experiment - a way to legitimize the job of the social worker. Besides the legitimization of the profession of social work, we call the adoption process a distribution of wealth, the wealth being the Caucasian infants.
WHO STARTED THE INDUSTRY OF ADOPTION?
An adoption execution can cost anywhere from $30,000 to $50,000!!!The law of supply and demand superlatively and quite simply illustrates the execution of adoption. Simply put ~ a booming market existed (and still exists today) and greedy and unscrupulous, entrepreneurs leapt at the opportunity. There was a demand (infertile couples) for a product (healthy Caucasian babies) and tragically the supply was finagled from vulnerable single moms who had no troglodytes to protect them - single moms were elected to pay the ultimate price! The brainwashing techniques by which scheming marketeers extracted infants was stigma, shame, disgrace, the threat of exile, ostracism.... We're tellin' you - our slimy entrepreneurs are slick! The scheme of the adoption industry (remember - infertile couples are the demand in the adoption industry) went something like this, "...Hmmm, let's make single motherhood a disgrace and set up Homes For Unwed Mothers where single moms will be forced to hide to protect their families from exile and 'voila' we've got ourselves an industry... adoption attorneys, adoption agencies, social workers... yeah, we can get rich! And we can use religion to make it all look legal... on the up and up! Who could object to that? Besides - the sluts can always have more kids! What's the harm!? Infertile couples are ENTITLED to raise a family, too! Let's spread the wealth! What's the big deal? They have to learn to follow the rules! They're sinners!"
A few Homes For Unwed Mothers still brazenly and arrogantly exist; albeit, the indoctrination, the brainwashing, the grooming, is much more subtle befitting the times that we live in since shame and stigma... no longer work quite so well. Although, in religious circles, these brainwashing techniques by which to extract children from the vulnerable still work quite nicely. Today slick, shameless, titans advertise on the Internet, "...Pregnant? If you're alone with your secret, we can help...."
In 2010 C.E., procuring infants for infertile couples to adopt is tougher so the adoption industry has conjured up new ways of separating families. There are many new tricks of the { adoption } trade. The following are only 8 new flagrant brainwashing techniques currently used to extricate children from the vulnerable:
- The hiding places, Homes For Unwed Mothers, are now called dormitories. Sounds more collegiate!
- Beware! The adoption worker of today is a wolf in sheep's clothing! Typically, the worker puts a warm and soothing hand of friendship on the shoulder of a vulnerable or poor single mom, "I want what's best for you. I understand what you're going through. I'm here to help you. You are in charge." Yeah, help yourself to my baby? The single mom admirably seeks help and education and support and the shysters trick her out of her child!
- Don't let them fool you with the "what's best for the child" or "in the best interest of the child" trick! You are what's best for your child!!! Don't harm your child by abandoning him, or her, to strangers via adoption!
- Losing a child to adoption is today called making "an adoption plan." That's about as disgraceful and sinister a tactic as the adoption industry can conjure up! Words have enormous power and adoption titans know that.
- A vulnerable single mom today admirably seeking counsel about parenting is groomed to view and describe herself as "not ready to parent." Adoption worker to single mom: "Honey, don't worry, we understand. You have a few more classes to study. We'll help you finish school. Let a couple take your baby while you finish school and build your future." Envision the adoption worker's { including adoption attorneys } warm and soothing hand of friendship on the shoulder, again. The single mom comes looking for help and guidance from so-called professionals and they help themselves to her baby!
- Hard to believe, but in closed adoption of the past the natural mom/victim was denied any and all information about her lost child for eternity!
Open adoption is supposed to give the natural mom some contact with her child, like pictures, cards, letters, or a yearly visit, as her child grows but the law does not bind adoptive parents to any such farce of a contract. Adoptive parents are allowed to skip town at any time and not let the natural mom know where they've skedaddled with her child. The law protects the adoptive parents! Open adoption is like making an agreement with a handshake.
"Trade ya' - a couple a' pictures a year for your healthy, White, infant!"
The single mom today is given a supposed "choice" of open adoption vs closed adoption but, more often than not, there is a change of heart in midstream for adoptive parents in an open adoption. As these strangers bond with the child that belongs to another, suddenly open adoption is not quite as appealing as before when they would do and say anything to obtain a child.
- Today the adoption industry has been forced to allow the single mom to choose the couple that will adopt her baby. Give us a break! What's that supposed to mean? She gets to pick someone out of a lineup of pictures! How demeaning can you get? "Let me pick my abuser! Let me pick my oppressor! Let me pick my victimizers! Oh, gee, thanks!"
- God and religion are shamefully and shamelessly still used by the adoption industry. Vulnerable single moms of today who choose the adoption route are brainwashed, groomed, to think that, "...God caused my pregnancy for a bigger plan. God has a plan for me and my child. God has shown me the way. God is good. God has a reason. God told me what to do. God made me do it. God will forgive my sin if I give my child to an infertile couple who follow the rules and, hence, deserve my child. I must be punished. I am a sinner...."
SPEAKING OF GOD:
We don't mind people invoking the name of God during a conversation - even a few times is ok - but every other word gets to be annoying and disrespectful to the listener. It's as if the speaker is attempting to convince the listener that by saying God's name numerous times during a conversation, the listener will be thoroughly convinced that God loves the speaker best. The listener is supposed to rest assured that the speaker is a good person just because he, or she, has mentioned God's name umpteen times. It's immature, childish, of the speaker and insulting to the listener. How often have our eyes glazed over listening to such a speaker? Very often!
* It's usually only one speaker in a conversation that has the pomposity to invoke God's name continually. How comedical would the scenario be with both speakers or many speakers invoking God's name in a conversation at the same time? Shouldn't that be reserved for religion class in school? Usually, it's one kind and generous listener who, with glazed-over eyes, is forced to listen to the overbearing speaker. Don't be so kind all the time, loyal listeners! Take off in midstream! Look at your watch and explain, "Hey! It's been real nice! I gotta' go, now! See ya' later, alligator!"
* The supererogatory use of God's name by weak and brainwashed moms who lose kids to adoption - every other word in a sentence is God's name - borders on "Taking the name of the Lord, thy God, in vain" which, we believe, according to the 2nd Commandment of The 10 Commandments of most religions is something we are commanded not to do. (Please see: Notes #3) Using God's name in vain is a sin according to most religions. God does not need moronic publicity. God has been doing fine without our invoking His name at every turn.
* Besides these brainwashed moms, our political leaders all too often speak, and promote themselves, via the God route. Immature and inadequate "leaders" (underachievers) invoke God's name at every turn, too. We're supposed to be convinced, then, that they're on the straight and narrow. We're supposed to rest assured that they're honorable and trustworthy people. "So, vote for me. God loves me best."
More than likely, we have all spewed one or two profane words in our lifetime even if only under our collective breath. Our illustrious religionists of the past preached that people who are not good at expressing themselves use profanity. We say that people who overly pepper their conversation with God's name are not good at expressing themselves! We assume it's rewarding to blame every move we make on God? We assume it's convenient and comforting to think that we're not responsible for what happens to us in this Life? Don't forget - God always has that reason. We believe this is an irrational way to view Life and God.
At "Watching The Watchers," we love God! Yet, we wouldn't presume to foist our God and religion on you, so please do not foist your religion on us! Keep your private beliefs about your God to yourself during normal conversation about baseball, for instance. The two previous sentences in this paragraph are NOT meant for our loyal readers who Watch The Watchers with us; we totally welcome and encourage our readers to share ALL your beliefs about any and every thing in Life - that's what this venue is for! We learn from each other! WE NEED YOU! to foist your beliefs on us!
BESIDES USING QUESTIONABLE LANGUAGE, WE ALL DO SOMETHING ELSE!
Occasionally, or even often, we all tell ourselves positive lies to survive emotional pain and anxiety. These comforting lies are called psychological defense mechanisms which (1) deny, falsify, and distort reality and (2) operate unconsciously so we are not aware of them.
Young moms who succumb to the new trick of open adoption, and adoption, in general, tell themselves positive things to survive the pain. They'll pull up their defense mechanisms to survive the pain and anxiety of creating a child out of wedlock and feeling society's vast pressure to give the child to deserving married strangers who follow the rules; but, with maturity and the wisdom that maturity brings, they will see how they have been taken advantage of - tricked. They will realize that they have been duped. They will realize the enormity of the gifts that they have lost!
* There is no greater gift in Life than the reproduction of oneself - a child! Certainly a piddling job is not greater than the gift of a child! A career is not greater than a child! A house? A car? A college degree? We don't think so! We implore you: you won't try to compare a few college courses to the gift of a child? Will you?
Without summoning their defense mechanisms, moms who lose children to adoptive strangers would be emotionally, and even physically, immobile and couldn't go on with Life. Sometimes, the pain of Life is almost too much to bear. Some defense mechanisms that help us in our time of need are:
* Rationalization
* Repression
* Projection
* Reaction Formation
* Displacement
* Intellectualization
* Suppression
We walk away from the aforementioned 8 NEW BRAINWASHING TECHNIQUES shaking our heads in disbelief and wonderment:
"WHY IS THIS MUCH TIME AND ENERGY NOT SPENT ON KEEPING "THE FAMILY" TOGETHER!?"
For instance, substitute "not read to parent" for "ready to parent," "adoption plan" for "family plan"... Not AS MUCH money in it? Right? We assume there are enough true orphans in the world without extended families to fuel the greed and the sense of entitlement of adopters?
Why don't a few reputable "entrepreneurs" spend a fraction of the time keeping families together!?
We laud the famed and celebrated Cleveland Clinic Hospital in Cleveland, Ohio, for offering parenting classes and support for teen parents, and all parents - classes most of our own parents would have benefited from!
BACK TO THE BEGINNINGS OF THE ADOPTION INDUSTRY
IN
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mid - 20th CENTURY:
You ask, "Why Caucasian? What about African-American, Chinese... infants?"
Sorry, no adoption market for Black kids in the past. Black single moms and their families were the lucky ones! Their families remained together. Noone wanted to adopt Black kids in the past - or if they did, the patriarchs - leaders - society would not allow adoption across races. Besides that, the White man wanted to keep the Black man down. ( Research supports this theory. ) The White man thought by allowing Blacks to keep their illegitimate kids, the Black man would remain down and out, poor, on welfare, but that's not what happened at all. Black single parents thrived, and continue to thrive, with their families intact. Blacks had the last laugh! We think that after slavery there is just no way that Whitey was taking ( via adoption ) the Black kids, too!
As we have attempted to illustrate, the majority rules - not just in politics! The majority in every society makes the mores/rules that the members of a society will live by. Until recently, an American citizen either followed these societal mores, or rules, or one was simply and casually, even vehemently, ostracized by their simpleton- neighbor. Where does one go after one is exiled from his, or her, society? All victims who have been labeled as unworthy of participating fully in the mainstream of Life, who have been forced to remain in the closet of Life, and who are today inching their way out of the closet, we thank you for your courage and hard work toward dignity and freedom for all! Thank you for paving the way for others!
CAREER WOMEN OF THE PAST:
During our patriarchal past, even single career women who became pregnant lost their infants to adoption just because they were unmarried; these young women certainly earned plenty of money with which to care for their children but the rule is the rule - the societal rule! Keeping their children would have caused them to lose their jobs and landlords would not rent to single moms - and not too long ago, either, a few short decades ago!
PROSPECTIVE MARRIED COUPLES:
More often than not in the past, engaged couples married right after losing a child to adoption; the price of NOT being ostracized by their society, by their goofy neighbors, though, was no illegitimate children allowed - the child of a prospective married couple had to go for adoption! Hard to believe? Right? Well, there's more! Our goofy society even counted backwards 9 months from the birth of a married couple's 1st child to see if the couple had engaged in pre-marital sex! How intrusively incestuous can a society - your neighbor - get!? People should get a Life and stay out of the sexual affairs of their neighbor!
THE BRAVE FAMILY:
In the past, there was a brave family with self-esteem here and there that kept the child born to a single family member. Sometimes, Grandma or an Aunt would say the illegitimate child is hers and the family was kept together that way. Prior to the 20th century, there was no such entity or institution as adoption! (You won't give the ridiculous example of Moses being adopted by the Pharaoh and therefore taking the children of another is ok! Man, people will stoop to all kinds of trickery! We can safely say we have heard it all!)
UNDERDOGS HAVE BEEN KILLED in the United States:
Being the underdog is serious business!
In the United States, besides single parents, gays are a minority, too. Gays who have bravely come out of the closet at the wrong time in the 20th century have been killed! Today, we still see the farcical, "Don't ask, don't tell," rule pertaining to homosexuals in the American armed forces. Today, President Ahmadinejad says there are no homosexuals in Iran so we can only assume that any homosexual coming out of the Iranian closet would be jailed or killed.
EVERYBODY KNOWS the trick BUT THE VICTIM:
We don't think vulnerable people realize exactly how SOCIETAL MORES (rules) influence them because the vulnerable are too busy trying to survive and, hence, can be more easily taken advantage of - tricked - when they're not looking! Hold on tight to your dreams! And your kids!
One example of the climate surrounding single moms of the past: In the United States in the year 2000 C.E., a couple friends of "Watching The Watchers" were sitting in the waiting room of a business as a toddler who looked to be of Colombian descent played on the floor. One of them, perhaps, asked the nationality of the cute little boy. "Oh, he's from Peru," the female adult casually and pretty adamantly quipped - there was no doubt in her mind. "Unwed mothers, they hide! The pope runs the country there!" So, everybody knows (and knew in the past) the trick by which babies were, and are, forced from the vulnerable single mom but the single mom! All of the savvy tricksters, including infertile couples, prospective adoptive parents, know (and knew in the past) the various avenues - the brainwashing techniques - used to trick vulnerable families out of their children, and they're obviously ok with it! Hm-hm.
BIRTHMOTHER VS BIRTHER:
Adoption titans have thought up new nomenclature to help quell the guilt and heart palpitations of infertile couples and adoptive parents throughout the Life of the child they adopt. For instance, the creepy (makes the skin creepy-crawl) and politically-incorrect, demeaning, insulting term, birthmother, allows infertile couples to rationalize (a defense mechanism) in their own minds and convince themselves that it's ok to take the child that is born from the body, the egg and semen, and the ancestry of another! That takes some doing - taking the child that doesn't belong to you takes some doing! What audacity it must take!? A male New York mental health professional who is also adopted, and THE ONLY internationally-renowned and respected EXPERT in adoption, and also friend of "Watching The Watchers" says he couldn't take a goldfish from another!
To quell the guilt of - to groom - prospective adoptive parents, the titans of adoption have invented the term, birthmother, which implies distance between the single mom and her child - the term is meant to make her appear like a non-mother! It is analogous to the n-word. The adoption industry is currently considering the use of the term, birther, when referring to the natural mother of an adopted child. (How do ya' like that one, ladies and girls? Are you insulted, yet!?) The industry continues to stoop to new lows! Why not just call her an incubator!? Or, a baby machine? Single moms, hold on tight to your dreams! And your kids! Or be smart and get some troglodytes to protect you, if you must!
Of course, there will always be some vulnerable single mom with low self-esteem who will not realize that she is being insulted and demeaned and programmed by the use of the disgusting term - birthmother. The subtle, yet profound, brainwashing continues throughout her Life each time she is called birthmother - long after mom is separated from her child. To keep the single mom in her place, to assure she won't interfere with adoptive parents, the brainwashing continues in all sorts of media, for instance! The use of that word subtly and profoundly reminds her that she only gave birth to a child!
More accurate and acceptable terms are natural mom (a mom created by God or nature) or 1st mom. Or, how about just plain ole' mom? Leave the adopted kid with some dignity! Let him just have two moms! We do it all the time with stepchildren! Why do you put the adoption noose around the neck of the child born to a single mom? Isn't Life tough enough without the extra weight and burden of dealing with adoption's repercussions throughout the lifetime of the adopted individual? The stigma of adoption always lingers. Not to mention the equally and superlatively unnecessary noose around the neck of the single mom - the extra weight and burden of dealing with adoption's repercussions throughout the lifetime of the single mom! Isn't Life tough enough!?
THE SINGLE DAD:
A few short decades ago, it was like "the end of the world" for a family to discover that an unmarried daughter is pregnant. The unmarried son? Not so much! He was thought of as a he-man, an Italian- Stallion, for instance. In some indoctrinated religious circles, today, this scenario is still traumatic for the daughter in a family and still not at all traumatic for the son. We, of course, feel that every child is a gift to every family, and tribe, into which the child is born! The unmarried mom is not a baby machine or incubator for infertile couples! What audacity it must take to finagle the child from another!
HERITAGE:
- Expectant grandparents:
There's a television ad out. Don't let the television ad that Sarah's daughter (Bristol) is promoting discourage you! In the ad, Bristol condescendingly claims that her family's wealth and fame enable her to keep HER illegitimate child something which the average young single mom won't be able to do as easily, she says. Like a haughty parent, Bristol attempts to teach us, "Don't do as I do, do as I say! What's good for me is not good for you!" That methodology never worked for any other parent down through the ages! Why will it suddenly change the collective minds and sexual habits of a world audience of young kids when Bristol says it? Pretty haughty!? Huh? Bristol Palin is just trying to save face by way of those ads! Certainly her peers don't watch Fox News, where the ad was advertised. Bristol's handlers really think you people are dummies! RICH, or POOR, there is just no way that anyone else is getting their slimy paws on Sarah Palin's grandchild! Just try it! She'll use that rifle ( that she always speaks of ) on you! Keeping and raising your child is all about self-esteem!
- Expectant family relatives:
* In Indian culture (India), one's name tells the whole heritage and story of one's Life, the house one lives in, perhaps even the street on which one lives.
* Hebrew names tell the whole identifying story, too.
* In European villages, one's home is referred to by the name of the previous resident who resided there, perhaps, decades or a century earlier. For instance, the name of one's home or house would be alluded to with something like, "Oh, yeah, Caleigh Brooks lives by the Smith's," and the Smith family likely lived in the house decades or centuries earlier. Across the board, the emphasis is on family and heritage, as it should be.
- Expectant moms:
ALL PARENTS WHO THINK PARENTING IS SO DIFFICULT, JUST PUT YOUR KIDS UP FOR ADOPTION! What's the problem!?
Don't let "them" fool you! Parenting children is quite simple, and enjoyable! (Of course, parenting children with mental illness is sad and not quite as enjoyable as parenting should be.) We believe wholeheartedly that the root of problems with children is the inadequacy of parents - poor parenting skills! (Go ahead! Ask Dr. Phil!) We believe that infants are "blank slates" - tabula rasa. If you run into a problem, a crick in the road of parenting, "Seek professional help! Don't cry about it! Get yourself and your children some counseling!" (something most of our parents could have used)
Have some self-esteem about yourselves! Parent smartly! Single moms, don't be martyrs! Don't give your irreplaceabe gifts away! Don't give a part of yourself away! Otherwise, well be hearing from a tearful you in a couple of decades after you haven't been able to produce any other children. Sometimes, God only gives us the gift of ONE child! Young vulnerable moms think that since they gave birth once, they will give birth a 2nd time, but as we all know this is not always the case.
We are also well aware that one child does not replace another! Giving birth to a 2nd child doesn't replace the 1st child. A mom always remembers! So, just take the gift that God - Universe has given you and run with it! Enjoy!
Take parenting your child one step at a time, one day at a time, like everyone else does! Don't think of the whole legal 18 years of parenting a child to adulthood all at once! Nobody else does! That's what the adoption industry wants you to do! Don't be so hard on yourself! That's what the adoption industry is counting on! The adoption industry has their proverbial fingers crossed hoping you'll talk yourself right out of parenting your child! Family separators, that includes adoptive families, are VERY shrewd! They're likely older than you and more experienced at Life.
So, to those who, insultingly, keep insisting that parenting is the hardest job in the world, we say:
- Losing a child, via adoption or death, is the hardest job in the world! You certainly wouldn't dare argue with us about that! Would you?
- Mental illness is the hardest job!
- War is the hardest job!
- Being a minority, an underdog, is the hardest job in the world!
- Being an amputee or a paraplegic is the hardest job in the world!
- Suffering from domestic violence is the hardest job in the world!
INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION
Speaking of the heritage:
Traveling to various continents to finagle children from the vulnerable has been the new trend in adoption. The reason slick and savvy American shoppers today scoot overseas to pluck off children is twofold:
(a) Single moms simply aren't cooperating in the United States of America like they did in the past. They're not that prolific! They're not producing!
(b) There is much less chance of intrusion by the natural moms and families from which the children are extricated. The poor mom isn't likely to hop on an airplane to America from Russia or China to get a glimpse of her lost child. We find this particularly amoral and unethical! Taking children from parents simply because they are poor is markedly abhorrent and disgraceful! How do these adoptive parents sleep at night with an Asian child sleeping in the next room knowing that family is half way around the world? Just wondering which defense mechanisms such adoptive parents employ to stop the heart palpitations and the guilt?
At least celebrities who finagle kids from poor parents of countries around the world return to said country of the child's origin and open a school, for example. They cough up a few million bucks to quell their guilt - to rectify and justify the taking of the child of another! But, the majority of adopters don't have that luxury! Yep, money will just about buy you anything! Except, of course, integrity and honor! Nope, money won't buy you respect!
That brings us to the end - reunion:
Isn't it a horrible thought? A pitiful mom waiting 40 years, or more, to look for and HOPE to reconnect with her adult child! It's insulting to the hilt! WHAT KIND OF ADOPTIVE FAMILY WOULD WISH THAT ON ANYBODY!? What audacity it must take to adopt the child of another!? A pitiful mom hoping she passes the test of being worthy enough of her own child? Adoption is a living death! Some part of your lost child will be emotionally scarred! Is that what you want? In reunion, you'll always be on anguishing tenterhooks, "Have I said too much? Will he call, again? Should I not have spoken of my pain? Have I offended? Will this be the last time we talk? Will this be the last time I see him?"
Also, don't forget, if you're in a so-called open adoption, adoptive parents can close that door in a heartbeat! By law, they don't have to give you any kind of contact with your child even though they said they would!
Traveling to various continents to finagle children from the vulnerable has been the new trend in adoption. The reason slick and savvy American shoppers today scoot overseas to pluck off children is twofold:
(a) Single moms simply aren't cooperating in the United States of America like they did in the past. They're not that prolific! They're not producing!
(b) There is much less chance of intrusion by the natural moms and families from which the children are extricated. The poor mom isn't likely to hop on an airplane to America from Russia or China to get a glimpse of her lost child. We find this particularly amoral and unethical! Taking children from parents simply because they are poor is markedly abhorrent and disgraceful! How do these adoptive parents sleep at night with an Asian child sleeping in the next room knowing that family is half way around the world? Just wondering which defense mechanisms such adoptive parents employ to stop the heart palpitations and the guilt?
At least celebrities who finagle kids from poor parents of countries around the world return to said country of the child's origin and open a school, for example. They cough up a few million bucks to quell their guilt - to rectify and justify the taking of the child of another! But, the majority of adopters don't have that luxury! Yep, money will just about buy you anything! Except, of course, integrity and honor! Nope, money won't buy you respect!
REUNION:
That brings us to the end - reunion:
Isn't it a horrible thought? A pitiful mom waiting 40 years, or more, to look for and HOPE to reconnect with her adult child! It's insulting to the hilt! WHAT KIND OF ADOPTIVE FAMILY WOULD WISH THAT ON ANYBODY!? What audacity it must take to adopt the child of another!? A pitiful mom hoping she passes the test of being worthy enough of her own child? Adoption is a living death! Some part of your lost child will be emotionally scarred! Is that what you want? In reunion, you'll always be on anguishing tenterhooks, "Have I said too much? Will he call, again? Should I not have spoken of my pain? Have I offended? Will this be the last time we talk? Will this be the last time I see him?"
Also, don't forget, if you're in a so-called open adoption, adoptive parents can close that door in a heartbeat! By law, they don't have to give you any kind of contact with your child even though they said they would!
NO MEDIA FOR THE VICTIM! ONLY FOR THE VICTOR!
Why is there so little value placed on family and heritage in 2010 C.E. in the United States!? Because the media is powerful and because adoptive parents minimize the single parent in the media every day - just by virtue of possessing the child of the single parent! The losers of the children are never on television or in any other kind of media! The media doesn't want to hear from those families who have lost kids to adoption! Why is that!? Because the adoption industry is too powerful! Adoptive families are big spenders. Single parents are presumed to be poor and inferior! (See how "they" think about you!?) Adoptive families it is presumed buy the products that the media advertises! Also, the media feels that single parents are depressing - trailer-park trash! Why put them on tv?
Don't allow the media to keep sending out the message to society that your family is unimportant! The way to stop the media from broadcasting your unimportance is don't allow your relatives to be adopted! Here are some questions to ponder about the media:
* Why are only adoptive parents in the media touting their adoptive lives?
* Why are single moms who lose kids to adoption not allowed the same voice in the media? Why are single parents not given the same access to the media that adoptive parents enjoy?
* Why don't callous adoptive parents and the media give one iota about hurting the feelings of the millions of families from whom the kids have been extracted while single moms, and their families, who are tricked out of their kids continue to protect the feelings of the adoptive parents? Who the hell are you, adoptive strangers!? Those days are over, baby! The flagrant and brazenly joyous flaunting of the human acquisitions of adoptive parents in the media - - - the utter disrespect and disregard for the feelings of the natural parents who have been separated from their children through adoption - - - are why we have no qualms about being as frank and honest as we have been in this commentary! YOU would want nothing less? Would you!? Riiiight? Honesty is the best policy!? Riiiight? What's good for the goose, we assume, is still good for the gander! Riiiight!?
* Why is the victim still expected, forced, to protect the aggressor/predator in 2010 C.E.? That is the ultimate question. In societies across the globe, (1) single moms are, first, tricked out of their children and then (2) single moms are expected to elevate the adoptive parents/predators and lower themselves!? SINGLE MOMS ARE TRICKED OUT OF THEIR KIDS BY STRANGERS, AND THEN PRAISE THE STRANGERS! We'll tell you: Victimization is a bitch! { Pardon our French. Frankly, we vehemently resent the bad connotation that our idiotic patriarchs have foisted on our beautiful, intelligent, female dogs! }
(1) The oppressor victimizes the victim
(2) Then the victim praises the oppressor
What's wrong with that picture? Why does this dynamic occur? Well, of course, we know the answer is low self-esteem (and brainwashing) and isolation - that's precisely what the adoption industry is counting on!
You can see the same brainwashing in the tragedy perpetrated by a man of the cloth in 1978 who took his nearly 1000 followers from California to Jonestown, Guyana, where he brainwashed them into committing mass suicide with him. It is the greatest single loss of American civilian life in a non-natural disaster until the events of September 11, 2001, the tragedy at Guyana also ranks among the largest mass murders/mass suicides in history.
Don't forget: The victim doesn't know she is being victimized by adoption! Victims don't know they're being victimized at the time of victimization. The predator is in his, and her, sick glory! Oppressors have free reign.
Don't let 'em have your kids, and then praise them, too!
{ Don't let adoptive parents have your kids
and then defer to adoptive parents, too!
Don't be that idiotic!
How many different ways can we say it!?
Where's your self-esteem?
We know
* first
they rob you of your self-esteem
* then
they rob you of your child!
We know how brainwashing works!
We also know
* * * After awhile the oppressor doesn't have to work so hard.
The victim takes over for the oppressor!
Don't be afraid!
Single moms, don't be afraid!
ALL parents are afraid in the beginning! }
{ Don't let adoptive parents have your kids
and then defer to adoptive parents, too!
Don't be that idiotic!
How many different ways can we say it!?
Where's your self-esteem?
We know
* first
they rob you of your self-esteem
* then
they rob you of your child!
We know how brainwashing works!
We also know
* * * After awhile the oppressor doesn't have to work so hard.
The victim takes over for the oppressor!
Don't be afraid!
Single moms, don't be afraid!
ALL parents are afraid in the beginning! }
* If single moms who lose their kids to adoption do such a good thing, why don't we hear from them? Or about them!? Why does the media push single moms to the background? If adoption is so great, why the big secret? Because out in the open, adoption wouldn't fly so well! How long should the shame of bearing a child while single linger? Why are adoptive parents made so superior?
We think this says it all!
Why are you not important in your society? Because advertising single moms who lose the kids to adoption wouldn't be good for business! Adoption would be seen as the disgusting and predatory act that it is! Single moms, and families, you owe it to those who will come after you to keep your families together! Don't elevate others and put yourselves down! Elevate yourselves! Don't praise others by remaining in the background! Don't defer to people! It's a big world out there! Get help!
DR. PHIL GETS THE LAST WORD:
For once, he put a positive spin on NOT putting a child on the adoption block! (Please see: Notes #4) On a recent Dr. Phil show, he said, "Don't think that your family is too dysfunctional for you to keep and raise your baby. My family, and childhood, was so dysfunctional that, if anything, social workers would have put us up for adoption!" The audience chuckled at the way he contradicted a pregnant mom who was thinking about adoption for her child because her brother is supposedly dysfunctional. Thanks, Dr. Phil, for once telling the truth about adoption! Show us a family that is not dysfunctional and we'll show you a family that IS dysfunctional because - anyone who thinks his, or her, family is perfect is obviously dysfunctional AND delusional!
N O T E S:
#1 *The Video is disgusting! And criminal!
#2 The illegitimate stamp: For your enjoyment and elucidation we looked up the definition of the adjective, illegitimate, on Dictionary.com which is one of our favorite websites. We're curious whether this term is still stamped on the birth certificates of the offspring of single parents? And when did that change?
( Single moms of the past weren't allowed to put the name of the dads on the birth certificates of their children. The industry didn't want to know. "They" didn't want a dad around to complicate things! )
Would the powerful people really still have the nerve in 2010 C.E.!?
You can thank our idiotic patriarchs for yet another disgusting custom of the United States!
Below is the heavy noose put around the neck of an innocent gift from God - Universe. Illegitimate is the label by which the adoption industry has separated, and continues to separate, vulnerable families! The aura of "the illegitimate child" is still alive and well in the 21st century! Illegitimate means:
- Outlawed
- Baseborn
- Misbegotten
- Unauthorized
- Illicit
- Bastard
- Invalid
#4 Dr. Phil is an American psychologist who has his own hour-long daily television program during which he helps people with psychological problems of the day. Billionaire Oprah Winfrey made Dr. Phil who he is today.
TOPICS AT A GLANCE
- * the Video
- Societal mores (rules)
- Supply and Demand
- Zeitgeist
- U.S. Constitution guarantee
- 8 New Brainwashing Techniques in 2010 C.E.
- Dormitories
- Beware of the world in sheep's clothing!
- What's best for the child?
- An adoption plan
- Not ready to parent
- The empty choice: closed vs open adoption
- Open adoption - the marketing tool
- Choose the infertile couple that will victimize you
- God and Religion
- Defense mechanisms
- Blacks and adoption
- Career women and adoption
- Prospective married couples and adoption
- The brave families
- Underdogs have been killed
- Don't ask, don't tell
- Everybody knows but the vulnerable victim
- Words have enormous power
- Birthmother or Birth mother
- Birther
- The n-word
- The single dad in our society
- Heritage
- Expectant grandparents (Sarah Palin)
- Expectant family relatives
- India
- Hebrews
- Europe
- United States
- Expectant moms
- Parenting isn't quite the hardest job in the world
- Sometimes you only get one gift
- No media for the victim - only the victor
- Reunion
- Dr. Phil
* If you haven't yet,
please make sure you read the May, 2010, entry in this blogcast
about
boycotting Elisabeth Hasselbeck,
entitled,
"Get The Bitch Off The !@#% Air, ABC!"
WE NEED YOU!
to be informed.
{ You never know when you will need to be informed!
Life has a way of pouncing on us!
Be prepared!
Thank you for participating! }
And most of all,
Enjoy!
please make sure you read the May, 2010, entry in this blogcast
about
boycotting Elisabeth Hasselbeck,
entitled,
"Get The Bitch Off The !@#% Air, ABC!"
WE NEED YOU!
to be informed.
{ You never know when you will need to be informed!
Life has a way of pouncing on us!
Be prepared!
Thank you for participating! }
And most of all,
Enjoy!
Posted by Caleigh Brooks at 8/28/2011 9:14 PM 
Categories: Sinners
Tags: adoptive parents reaction formation united states repression europe brainwashing marketing dr. phil politics pharoah displacement intellectualization defense mechanism sinners homes for unwed mothers reunion india God 10 commandments suppression industry constitution bristol palin media projection adoption trick pope hebrew catholic anxiety moses advertising rationalization elisabeth hasselbeck birthmother illegitimate single mother pregnancy sarah palin christianity
Categories: Sinners
Tags: adoptive parents reaction formation united states repression europe brainwashing marketing dr. phil politics pharoah displacement intellectualization defense mechanism sinners homes for unwed mothers reunion india God 10 commandments suppression industry constitution bristol palin media projection adoption trick pope hebrew catholic anxiety moses advertising rationalization elisabeth hasselbeck birthmother illegitimate single mother pregnancy sarah palin christianity
I cried through the whole thing. Sadly, this is more than a person can should have to live through....and we all did in one way or another.
The trafficing in human cargo did not end with slavery in the United States, but grew larger with every decade. Now, we outnumber the mothers that were allowed to keep their babies.
I fought - hard - and lost. We never stood a chance.
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One thing that I wish people would remember is what the bible tell us. We are all God's children. I cannot see why there was and is hatred from one person to the next simply because their skin color differs. I will watch this movie when it is released, even though I know it will upset me.
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Thank you for sharing all this great information
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Our goal is to have women, and men, think for themselves and not give a hoot what their low-grade neighbors may think!
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Money will just about buy you anything! Except, of course, integrity and honor! Nope, money won't buy you respect!
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You have a few more classes to study. We'll help you finish school. Let a couple take your baby while you finish school and build your future.
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They're curious whether this term is still stamped on the birth certificates of the offspring of single parents ?
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I cannot see why there was and is hatred from one person to the next simply because their skin color differs. I will watch this movie when it is released, even though I know it will upset me.
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Anyone who thinks his, or her, family is perfect is obviously dysfunctional AND delusional!
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We are all God's children. I cannot see why there was and is hatred from one person to the next simply because their skin color differs.
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I could never have thought that such horrors took place in the USA in the middle of the 20th century!
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This is such a useful post.Thank you very much for the information.
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An interesting article.. it makes wonder . . . The only thing I do not agree is the word "the reproduction of oneself - a child"
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When we're onstage, it's like mind reading: we're on the same page.
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Interesting...
Let's see this film..
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Since that time I have had continuous contact with the persons who were completely unknown to me, except that I knew they would hand whatever information I gave them to the Russian authorities.
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I don't ever worry about whether I'm being true to my country roots. My country roots were adopted. I never worry about what I can do and what I should do. I just do what I want to do.
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Write more often
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Dear Caleigh,
I would like to explain to you a bit better how the Dutch (anti-)adoption law really works. Would you like me to do so?
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